Narcissism or self-centeredness

In school we talked about this topic..it fascinates me how many people have this disorder…please read below…

It’s often hard to explain the extent of narcissistic abuse because the word narcissism is often equated with simple self-centeredness. Recognizing the difference will avoid a lot of unnecessary pain and agony. Though self-centeredness and even conceitedness is part of narcissism, being a narcissist is much more than that. Being a narcissist involves living in a distorted reality where the rules of “normal” do not apply. They effectively live in a bubble where true communication and intimacy is futile.

The narcissistic mother does not make a distinction that he is separate from her. She possesses him like an indispensable object. Architect Frank Lloyd Wright’s mother referred to her son as her Prince. This is the classic role of the chosen narcissistic son. The enmeshed son is flattered by this form of adoration and feels an enhanced ego as a result of his mother’s extraordinary attentions. Beneath the surface in the unconscious the narcissistic son despises his mother for harnessing him to her. Another byproduct of this use of the son as an object of adoration and psychological imprisonment is the narcissist’s hatred of women in general which originates from their fear of women. Much of this comes from the primal narcissistic mother’s pulling the puppet strings of her son’s life. He has become her creation.

Narcissists are addicted to constant attention and cannot be alone. Like a drug addict on the verge of going cold turkey, they live in a constant state of depletion looking for new sources of narcissistic supply/attention. They consequently have very little energy to invest in an existing relationship. Old sources of supply are maliciously degraded or shelved for future use, and the narcissist lives in a constant turmoil and chaos of his own making.