Tantrum Much?
Yesterday, Wednesday, we had a pretty good day together. I have to get the stuff packed up in the camper and we both hate moving and love to wait til the last minute. So we goofed off around town til about 4.
I picked up a book at the used book store, where we have credit, called It’s (Mostly) His Fault. A logical look at why men don’t bend written by a man with 35 years of couples counseling sessions as the couselor. Not a man bashing book, but a Female Handbook type thing. I scanned it off and on so far. Read first 10 pages and shared with him, as he’s not a reader.
When we got home I told him I wanted to watch The Young and the Restless. Usually he does too. He asked if I’d play games with him and I said I was watching Y&R so he left the camper and kept himself busy at his mom’s house.
At exactly 5pm the door opens and he yells in, "Wanna play games now?" I didn’t, but I went ahead. He comes in with Scrabble and it was fun. We played from 5-10. Then I wanted to watch My Prez on The Daily Show. He hates politics and blacks and anything to do with learning and growing… so he had a fuckin FIT!!!!
I explained we spent the day together, I gave him FIVE HOURS of Scrabble and I wanted 30 minutes for HISTORY. To learn, to grow, to hear answers to MY questions. He yelled, he cussed, he went outside to bang on the camper and make my dog bark. Then he wouldn’t let my dog on the bed, the FIRST time ever. When my dog jumped up finally and hid behind me he yelled for him to get down because he didn’t say he could be up there. MANY MANY attention grabbing childish behaviors. I told him I read in the book we have to let each other know "unacceptable behaviors". I told him everything he was doing was unacceptable and he said mine were too.
I then just ignored him and talked to My Prez and nodded alot. By the end he said "You can take your dog, your president and everything else and shove them up your mother fuckin ass." Still ignored him. Then when the interview was over I handed him the remote and watched whatever was on History then. Snow transportation. Before that, while Scrabbling, we even watched IRT together.
THIS whole incident is why I can’t stand him. Love him, hate his 5 year old bullshit. I want a MAN. A fun, happy, carefree MAN. Not an always angry, gripey, complainy, miserable little brat.
On my upside, I had insomnia from 2:30 to 5:30 again, but then… my dream was Prez and hubs ex-wife moving into my giant home/office building. The security issues were funny. He was a warm kind man and hubs ex liked to party. It was a longer more detailed dream, but those were the great hi-lites! Hub wasn’t in it!
Wishing you Peace and Resolution,
Yaechle
My ex used to throw temper tantrums, too. I used to try to appease him, calm him down, etc. One day, while he was in the middle of one of his fits, I took a long, hard look at him, realized he was behaving exactly like the toddlers I worked with, and that. was. that. I stopped trying to reason with him, stopped trying to make things ‘better’, stopped interacting with him at all when hewas acting like a spoiled brat. I would either ignore him, or get up and leave the room (a couple of times, I left the house for an hour or so). He still had temper tantrums, but at least I didn’t have to deal with them!
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Your moving?? Where to? Was he drinking when he had that fit? If so, his behavior won’t change until he stops drinking. Eric
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