September 13, 2009

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Theme

So, this weeks theme question is:

If someone was going to pick out the perfect birthday present for you, what would it be?

Now, some might expect my response to be something like a working TARDIS or unlimited free broadband access. Something like that.

But it’s not.

My perfect birthday present would be a relationship with my daughter.

For those of you who don’t already know this story, it goes a little something like this:

Just before my 18th birthday, I started going out with The Ex. And we promptly started sleeping with each other (we were each others first).

It wasn’t all sweetness and light. We fought, as couples do. (I’m not sure how many couples fought because she, at 17, wanted a 25 year mortgage and he, at 80 and unemployed, didn’t [I won, BTW] but there we go.)

In fact, we did actually split up for a while before getting back together.

We moved in together and she found out she was pregnant. And she suffered from horrendous morning sickness. She literally couldn’t keep anything down and was in and out of hospital with dehydration.

So it wasn’t easy. It was less easy when she announced on Christmas Day that she wanted to split up with me.

Then the crazy started. She would phone me at work all the time just so we could talk. Despite the fact that a) she knew my mobile phone number and so could call me whenever she wanted, and b) I worked at Burger King so therefore midday, at the height of our busiest time was not the ideal time for a call.

It got so bad that it was pissing off the managers and supervisors. This is the point at which she sent me into a blind panic by pretending to be my sister, just so she could talk to me.

I really wish I was making that up.

Eventually, she stopped communicating with me altogether. I did, however, know roughly when she was due to give birth. So, I headed to the hospital only to be told that she’d banned me from seeing either of them.

And, that was that. Or it was until a couple of Christmasses ago, fulled on boredom, alcohol and having watched the Pushing Daisies where Emerson tells Ned about his daughter, I looked for The Ex on FB, followed the link to her myspace and found the following pic:

Yup, that’s The Ex. And my daughter.

I know I could get a lawyer and see about access, etc. while a part of me really wants to do. But at the same time, I’m not sure what, if anything, she’s been told about me and I don’t particularly want to upset or disrupt her.

But, yeah, that would be my ideal birthday present.

Will

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She is a very pretty young lady. I hope you get your wish

*Moonglow*

September 14, 2009

wow. i had no idea. it must be so hard for you.

*Moonglow*

September 14, 2009

wow. i had no idea. it must be so hard for you.

*Moonglow*

September 14, 2009

wow. i had no idea. it must be so hard for you.

little_chloella

September 14, 2009

omg. wow. quite something. what you decide to do is up to you but as her father you do have rights, i don’t just mean legally but morally as well. plus it could work the other way, she could grow up wondering why you never got in touch. *hugs*

little_chloella

September 14, 2009

little_chloella

September 14, 2009

dear_gertrudeperkins

September 14, 2009

🙁

dear_gertrudeperkins

September 14, 2009

🙁

dear_gertrudeperkins

September 14, 2009

🙁

I hope that you can find a way.

Oribeth

September 14, 2009

Really hope it happens for you someday, when the time is right. *squidge*

Oribeth

September 14, 2009

Really hope it happens for you someday, when the time is right. *squidge*

Oribeth

September 14, 2009

Really hope it happens for you someday, when the time is right. *squidge*

She’s lovely and I can see you in her face. I thought about this situation the other day and was hoping that you had gotten some closure there. I’m sad to see there hasn’t been. I do hope you get your wish. *hugs* ~

Annnnnnd I forgot to sign in. ~Corby

toile_de_jouy

September 14, 2009

ryn: I was confused as to the purpose of the Tallest Scot and Dog!

toile_de_jouy

September 14, 2009

ryn: I was confused as to the purpose of the Tallest Scot and Dog!

toile_de_jouy

September 14, 2009

ryn: I was confused as to the purpose of the Tallest Scot and Dog!

oobi

September 15, 2009

Your daughter is beautiful. If that is your ideal birthday present, then you should and could and will totally make it happen. Tread lightly and go forward into this with a strong confident heart 🙂 Youse be a good man, will.

oobi

September 15, 2009

oobi

September 15, 2009

mmm. ever thought about trying to get in touch with the ex and her allowing you that wish?? she is lovely, btw.

Zedlavharas.

September 16, 2009

Aw, she’s really cute. I think it would be worth it to at least ask about her, even if you couldn’t actually see her or have any visitation. You never know what might come of it. Do you know if her mom ever got married or is involved with someone now?