Honeymoon stage

So I have been hearing a lot both in person and on here, about people going through the "honeymoon stage" of relationships. My first and ultimate question is why? Okay I get you may be extremely into someone and self conscious of turning them off, as your too into them to want to lose them BUT, when that stage ends and you clear all the skeltons in the closet, would it really be worth finding out once your in love or have this image of who this person COULD be?

Why do we put so much effort into hiding who we really are when life is easier and flows easier, for lack of better words, when you are just yourself….if I don’t want to do dishes, obviously I’m not gonna leave both sinks full of dishes but if I have a plate and a cup and a ton of silverware, oh well. lol IDK

Does anyone know the advantages of having the honeymoon stage? Obviously, you get the Prince Charming/Ms Perfect but doesn’t it suck when the masks come off and he is no longer taking trash out, she is no longer cooking, just random instances which I don’t mind doing at all as I love to help but I don’t want ot be the only one doing it and sadly that would be a quick deal breaker if at first you do it alll and then when the stage ends, you do nothing, yeah we’d have BIG huge issues and call me dumb, materialistic, whatever, I think every relationship needs to be 50/50.

Anyways, thats my rant/question….confusing to me how people can just be cool about it and be someone they are not.

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March 24, 2012

ryn, judo is a martial art, no punching or kicking though, its designed so that people of any body type can do it. So far its mostly been throwing people and learning to fall, there are mat holds, submission holds and choke holds though too. reiki is a spiritual healing and meditation type class……its hard to describe it very accurately in a note though, u might to look it up.

March 25, 2012

I never considered the honeymoon stage one where people hid things about themselves. It’s just the stage when your relationship is still new so you always want to be around them and hugging and kissing and pretty much pissing off everyone around you. ^_^ It’s wanting to be close to each other, not lying about yourself. Things you do then are genuine, but become less frequent over time.

March 26, 2012

I love the new background! ryn: I guess, I don’t think people go above and beyond in they honeymoon stage, it’s just hormones and happiness. As for any lying, I don’t think it’s included in the ‘honeymoon’ phrase. That’s just certain guys being stupid. There is still hope! But I think the key is asking guys things specifically. They don’t think to bear it all out.

March 26, 2012

Ryn: Exactly! PLUS Zimmerman was FOLLOWING Trayvon. If anyone had a right to feel endangered and fight, it was Trayvon, not Zimmerman. The whole thing makes me so angry.

April 20, 2012

HMMM this is a good question. I guess me myself and him go thru several “honeymoon” stages….when things get a little out of hand we “make up” lol TMI but yeah.