Dumb Exes and Beautiful Daughters

So, my husband’s ex wife Jennifer dropped off our little girl last night, and everytime I think I have figured out the levels of her stupidity she amazes me once again…. I have been with Jeff since our daughter was 2. She’s now almost 10. Jennifer has just started seeing her regularly for about the last 2 years. She gets her 4 days a month but acts like she is supermom. The entire time the kid is there she’s cleaning her house for her and taking care of her two younger brothers. Don’t get me wrong, I believe in chores and learinin responsibility. But, if you go to this woman’s house any time my daughter is not there it is a disaster area. I am not exaggerating this at all. I promise you. She has two dogs and a cat in a very very small house. The cat has sprayed all her furniture and the dogs poop and she leaves it until it dries so it’s easier to pick up. To cover the smell of the poop and cat spray she burns scented lysol in one of those electric inscent burners. I guess that’s easier than actually getting off her butt and cleaning something. So, with all this, I don’t think it’s right for my kid to go over there every other weekend and do what a grown woman can’t manage to do the rest of the time. Now, on to the thing that got me this weekend…. Jennifer told me Friday that her refrigerator went out last Sunday and they were buying a new one Saturday afternoon. Well, when my kid gets home Sunday night she starts telling me how she had to clean the old food and stuff out of the broken refrigerator. And one thing to understand about her is this, she was not telling me to get anyone in trouble. She was proud of the work she had done and what she had accomplished. That’s just the kind of child she is. So, anyway, That nasty smelly food sat in a broken refrigerator from Sunday to Friday, and they made a 9 year old clean it out! When I asked Jennifer about it, her response was "Well I gave her a can of Glade to spray when it got too stinky". How unbelievable is that?!? I think if I only seen my child 4 days a month I could think of better ways to spend our weekend. I don’t know maybe I’m just being a bitch. Maybe I’m blinded by pure hatred of her because she claims to be such a better mother than me just because she gave birth to her. Like I tell her, that was the easy part. I’ve been here practically every day since. Her dad and I are raising her. She doesn’t remeber a time in her life when I wasn’t around. When she would ask what was wrong with her mom because she hadn’t seen her in 3 or 4 months. I was the one who told her it would be ok mama was just busy. I was the one who talked her out from under her bed when Jennifer finally did come get her and our daughter was worried she would get busy and forget to bring her home…. I have earned the name mommy to that child. It was her decision to call me that. It wasn’t just by some fluke that I came into her life. We chose one another.