…my dad has covid.
I’m really frustrated. My family has been so good since the beginning. My mom has some underlying conditions and my 86 year old grandfather spends everyday at my parents house.
We’ve been very careful with whom we see. We’re not going out. We’re doing a really good job quarantining. Not perfect. But good. Sometimes there’s slip ups. Sometimes a family member who isn’t quarantining comes by. Sometimes we go to an outdoor restaurant. Sometimes we hug my older brother who works with a lot of people who don’t believe in masks. I see my parents at least once a week (I only live about 20 minutes away from them).
My dad does see people. He has business meetings pretty much every day of the week. But for the most part. We’ve been good.
Anyway, last Friday I went to my parents house. My dad mentioned how he hasn’t had an appetite all day and hasn’t eaten anything. That’s not like my dad but no one thought anything of it. Yesterday he started feeling sick. Today he’s worse. He got a rapid test today and it came back positive. He has a fever and he’s super congested and really tired. Nothing horrible but still scary.
My mom got a rapid test with him today. She’s negative. But the person administering her test told her that she’s most likely going to get it. I’m worried about my mom. She’s sleeping in the guest room until he gets better and she’s taking a bunch of precautions but that doesn’t mean she didn’t get it, or that she doesn’t already have it.
I haven’t been feeling great today but I’m chalking it up to stress. I got a covid test today, not the rapid one, so it’ll take a couple days to get my results. My grandpa gets tested tomorrow. I’m so worried about everyone.
It’s hard to be perfect. I get it, but if you don’t want family members to get sick you can’t take risks. I’m sorry that your dad has Covid and that your mom might have it. It’s too bad your dad couldn’t do virtual online meetings. Might not make you feel any better but A friend of mine got it and her parents as well and they only ended up having mild cold symptoms. I work as a flight attendant so I cant be home, but since I live with my sister and her husband who both both have asthma you can bet I’ve done everything I can to not bring the virus home. I don’t see anyone at all outside of work. My life is work and home. The only other place I go is the grocery store. I get tested every other week. I wear gloves and change them constantly. I am required to wear my mask at all times, sometimes 14 hours a day. The only time it’s off is in my hotel room Or if I am briefly eating or drinking. It’s tough, but it’s worked for me so far. I take these precautions because I don’t want my family to get sick. All you can do is your personal best. 👍🏻 Sending prayers.
@hannah_banana0012 I actually respectfully disagree with you. If I don’t want my family members to get sick, they can’t take risks. Unfortunately, I cannot control what other people do, only what I do.
My husband works from home and I spend all day studying from home. The only people I see are my parents, socially distanced, once a week. I get that that’s not “perfect” social distancing, but it is a risk I’m willing to take. I’m not worried about myself, I’m worried for my parents.
Everything my parents have been doing have worked for them so far, too. Until this point. You never know if the VID will sneak up on you or not.
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I’m sorry. It’s really hard, and impossible to be perfect. All we can do is our best, and some people get sick anyway. I pray everyone recovers. (((HUGS)))
@catholicchristian Thank you!
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hugs tightly
@sleepydormouse 💖
@vulnerableme 😉
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New reader here.
My parents are both in their 70’s and the only places they go is for a walk in their neighbourhood and wear a mask. And they both walk alone and walk at different times. they haven’t seen me since march and I haven’t seen them. They have not been out to eat to a restaurant nor have they gone to a different city or traveled by boat or plane or even car. The only places i go is to essential service things and I always wear a mask. I bet your dad doesn’t wear a mask at his meetings and this is why he got Covid and there was also probably no social distancing. this virus is deadly and just hope it doesn’t get worse because people are never the same after they recover. And it only takes 15 minutes to be exposed so everyone in your house hold has been exposed also.
@jaythesmartone I appreciate your concern but a lot of your assumptions are wrong. Yes, there have been slip-ups in our social distancing measures. But I’m taking like 5 or 6 since COVID began.
My parents are both in their 50s. My mom stays home, but my dad doesn’t have that luxury. He always wears a mask (usually he’s double masked), and always social distances. Like I said, we’ve all been taking a bunch of precautions so that my mom and my grandpa don’t get it.
I get that allocating blame makes people feel better about the precautions they’re taking but the fact of the matter is that some people take very strong precautions and still get the virus, while others take no precautions and don’t get it.
@vulnerableme
I have not seen anyone who follows all the rules get this virus. it’s always because someone is somewhere they are shouldn’t be. And also this virus has a lot to do with blood type and underlying issues.
@jaythesmartone I have not personally seen a kangaroo but I believe they exist. Thanks for throwing a fallacy into your note.
It is possible to touch something like a door handle that was previously handled with someone with covid, and then inadvertently rub your eyes and get covid.
I dont know where this judgment is coming from, but I never asked for it.
Also, some inclusive studies show that people with blood type O are the least likely to contract the virus and the most likely to recover. Both my parents are O+ (as am I), and my husband is O-.
@vulnerableme
The reason you get the Covid virus from touching the counter or a door knob is because of this is what the experts say and I agree with them 100% and besides I only touch my face when I can use my sanitizer or wash my hands with hot water and soap.
https://www.vox.com/the-goods/2020/3/23/21185927/face-touching-hard-to-stop-why-coronavirus
@jaythesmartone Thank you for sharing and yes I understand that. I’m very happy you are staying as safe as possible.
Just to be clear, I’m not denying my dad was exposed to COVID, and I’m not denying that he could have avoided. But your assumptions about him not wearing masks and social distancing are not true, and they come off very blameworthy and judgmental.
@vulnerableme
well someone did something not right or he wouldn’t have gotten exposed…..and it was not my intention to be blameworthy or judgemental.
@jaythesmartone “well someone did something not right”
Is being blameworthy.
In the same note where you claim it’s not your intention to be blameworthy.
It would have been kinder and less stressful (probably to the both of us) if you just sent well wishes.
@vulnerableme
I am guessing that all the protocells were not followed because here where I live we have the work safe people and the police always doing spot checks and fining people and business for not following the rules. I know the USA is a lot more laxed and that is why there are so many more cases then here where I live.
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So sorry to hear this. Yes, likely your mom will get it. Be prepared to do more caretaking, shopping, etc. for them. My mom has it now. She is in a skilled nursing facility and caught it from staff. Even being very careful, it can slip through.
@bonnierose Hoping my mom doesn’t get it. We have a big family and we’re all prepared to help.
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I am so very sad to hear this bad news. It is very possible mom won’t get it. My g’dtr’s hubby did not get sick when she got the virus. Keep us posted. Lifting you and your family up in prayer. 🙏for Vulnerable Me. 🙏 for Vulnerable’s dad. 🙏for Vulnerable’s mom. 😎
@tracker2020 Thank you so much 💖
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I’m so sorry. I know the worry of worrying about your parents especially when they don’t have the luxury of working from home. Please keep us updated.
@seablue4u Thank you 💗 I will!
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