This Is Not A Title
Remember I mentioned that a buddy of mine was trying to set me up with a friend of his? Well, I asked him for her cell number so that I could text her and get to know her. I like texting, it’s not as impersonal as using the internet but not as confronting as a phone call. Considering I’ve only met her briefly a couple of times and wasn’t even sure she remembered me, I thought texting was a good way to feel things out.
So my buddy sends me her home land line number and tells me to call her. Says she has no credit on her cell and never uses it anyway or some crap. I tell him I don’t have the balls to call her yet, and he starts getting on at me to suck it up and give it a shot. So I do.
Midnight on Monday. My buddy insists that she’s still up, and what’s more, expecting my call. Thanks buddy. Talk about pressure. So I call her, introduce myself, and start chain smoking.
She prattles on for an HOUR. Talks mostly about herself, and Led Zepellin. Now, I love Zepellin, but this girl fucking loves them. My best friend is utterly obsessed with Led Zepellin and she makes him look like a dilettante. She spent at least fifteen minutes talking about them, which is about thirteen minutes more than I would have anything to say on the topic.
The other 45 minutes, she talks about herself. I chuckle, smile, nod, said "uh-huh" and "yeah" a lot, and contribute mostly nothing to the conversation. The few times I try to talk, I have to repeat myself three to four times because she can’t hear me over her Zepellin playing in the background.
I have to say, by the time I eventually extricated myself from the conversation, I was left a little jaded. Is this somebody I can see myself dating? Do I want to be in a relationship with somebody like this? She never once asked me a question, started a leading topic, prompted me to speak, wanted to know anything about me, or anything close to starting a two-way dialog. I’m not sure if she was nervous and trying to compensate for me being a little bit shy, trying to fill in for me so I wouldn’t have to say as much, or if she’s just a self-absorbed prattler.
Either way, it was a weird experience. I don’t think I’ll call her again until we’ve met again in person. I’d like to get to know her face to face and see if that’s really who she is before I commit to another hour on my cell phone late at night.
On another note, it seems that every second entry I say something about quitting smoking, and last entry I raved about how much I love to smoke, so this is my token effort. I’ve decided that I do want to quit this year, and I’m going to do it by quitting one day of the week at a time. I’ve tactically decided to start with Wednesdays, so I won’t be smoking tomorrow. From now on, I don’t smoke on Wednesdays. After four weeks, I’ll strategically pick another day of the week to not smoke, and so on until there are no days left and I don’t smoke anymore. It will be interesting to see how this pans out. I haven’t tried this method of cutting back before so I’ll keep you all posted on how excruciating it is.
Anyway, I’m off for a cigarette now, which I plan to enjoy immensely. Tomorrow from when I wake up to when I go to sleep I’ll be smokeless cold turkey, so I’d better enjoy smoking tonight while I can. I’m going to be a cranky boy tomorrow. =(
BTW, yes, I’m aware that I spelled “Zeppelin” wrong every single time in this entry. Fùcking OD isn’t letting me edit the entry though, so I get to leave myself looking like a schmuck. Yay. =|
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Good luck on the cold turkey. Even for a day it’s gonna be hard. I can imagine you staying up staring at the clock until it says midnight so you can smoke. It’s an amusing thought. Also, that girl sounds super self-absorbed. I can understand liking something a lot, but talking about it like that without allowing someone else a word in edgewise? Red flag to me. /shrug
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yeah, the whole thing with the girl would turn me off, too. nervous or not, who just rattles on about themselves for an hour?
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and i miss talking to you a lot, btw. san francisco may be hilly but its good for the soul. the air is brisk, the beer is good (so i hear) and the nights are so long that one hill can last an hour and its okay, because youre someplace beautiful and walking is just this nice thing to do to get to the next beautiful place.
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Your impression of this girl is entirely understandable! Best wishes with your cold turkey Wednesdays. I hope your plan works for you.
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Before I forget, here’s your meme!! : 1. I’ve always wondered if I’ve seen you before, in real life. We live close by and everything, so it’s not inconceivable!! 2. I challenge you to stick to this attempt at quitting smoking!! Think of all the money you’ll save (and your health!) 3. Yellow. Probably because of your diary. 4. I like that you’re honest to the point of beingblunt. You don’t sugar coat things, and that is excellent. Sugar is for diabetics. 5. My first memory of you is when you started this diary. Your first entry was great. I think you said something like “most people say that they don’t write for notes. What a load of bs. Of course I write for notes – the attention keeps me going here”. Honest!! I loved it. 6. Snake…being venomous and all! 7. Typically, what sort of girls do you lean towards? What do you like?
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Long time no talk to. My fault. Even after getting your last note, I didn’t make it over here to give you my normally inane notes. Your gain. You are at a good age to quit. It may actually help you. I had an aunt that quit for 20 years. She quit when she was in here late 50’s. Never once “fell off the wagon” after quitting. She died 20 years later from lung cancer. Doc told her the lung cancer was due to her smoking so long. So quit now, before it’s too late. I know, I should talk. But it’s too late for me to quit now since 20 years from now, when I come down with lung cancer, I’ll be 88 and ready to go.
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have you ever looked up Alan Carr (or maybe it was Alan Pease :/) I’ve heard his methods for quitting are good. And yeah…self-centred people are not hot.
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she sounds retarded. i mean, in a bad way.
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OK, I updated. Now it’s your turn.
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