K’s haircut is too short (and it bothers me)

K is beautiful, I absolutely adore him and find him attractive.

so it really greatly bothers me when he goes to get his hair cut, and he asks the hairdresser to just trim it by 1 inch, and she yet again gives him a super short haircut.

she keeps doing this.

she has only successfully cut his hair and had him look good afterwards a few times. last time he got his hair cut, he told her just half an inch and had to argue with her and be really insistent that it just be half an inch.

and fortunately he was successful, he held his ground (which is good, he’s a total sweetheart so it can be tough for him to do that) and he got the haircut he wanted, and he was happy, and I was very happy.

he walked by and asked, “are you blogging about my hair?”

yes, I’m trying to figure out why it bothers me.

K: “but why does it bother you if it doesnt bother me?”

Because you just said it will look bad for two weeks! And why should you pay $30 for something that makes you look bad? You could get a $5 haircut that looks like that.

K: “That’s true, I could go to supercuts and pay half price.”

It doesnt sound like it’s getting better to talk about it. He pointed out that I always complain about his haircuts, I objected and pointed out that the only haircuts I have had anything negative to say about have been the super short haircuts. I have praised like crazy the really flattering and somewhat longer haircuts.

We’re talking about a difference of an inch in length, but it makes so much difference to me. He looks so harsh with a short haircut, and a bit more hair looks more like him to me, it brings out his beautiful eyes, it softens his face. He looks more movie star style, or jcrew model style. It is still exactly how he likes it, layered, easy to just finger comb and be done. Yet very much more stylish.

you know how guys get a super short haircut because they dont care how they look? that’s how this cut looks to me. and K is someone who does care about how he looks, he dresses nice and preens in front of the mirror. It’s adorable. I love that about him. I love that he is a man with style.

and I’m sorry that this bothers me, that I tease him about it, that I complain about his hair. I just dont like him looking so harsh. I dont really know what to think about him actually liking that look. He says it brings out his cheekbones, makes him look more masculine and makes him look older.

I honestly think it makes him look like most guys out there – like he doesnt care how he looks and doesnt realize how he looks.

but he does.

and as incredulous as I may be, he does like this stupid hair cut. and I absolutely dont. It is so short, it makes him look like he has a receding hairline. I hate it when she cuts it like that. he’s 24 years old, he should not look as if he is balding.

it would be easier to accept it if he actually really liked it right now. but at best his comments are neutral. “it will grow out” “it will look bad for a week” “it’s clean cut” “I like short.”

If he were saying, ‘gosh, this is really me, I love it like this, this is so cool,” then I think I’d at least accept that he loves it like that. but it’s pretty clear he doesnt.

and I seriously want to punch the hairdresser.

well, not really actually punch her. but I’m so irritated at her for screwing his hair up again. I was the one who recommended her to him, I was the one who happily took him there, and said she’d do a great job. and she did that first time, it was beautiful.

then it was bad.

and bad.

then it was good.

and that’s how it goes. bad most of the time, occasionally good.

I dont want to be a terrible person. I dont want to be irritated at his hair being ‘too short’. I dont want to argue with him about something so stupid.