sex before marriage

So my fiance and myself have decided to make a pact: No sex until we are married! Can you imagine? I don’t think I’ve gone for longer than a week without sex since I was 18! The funny thing is that I came up with the idea.

What would drive me to such a crazy suggestion? Well, for one, it sounds exciting! Imagine not having sex for a long time, and then the whole idea of experiencing it for the first time, gives some magic to a marriage.

Consider the alternative: you and your partner have sex regularily (say 4-6 times a week). You decide “It’s time to get married”. Six months later, you are walking down the isle thinking about the last time you had sex (last night). You have a nice wedding, carry your wife accross the threashold…and then you have sex. Really, how different will that be from the night before? What do you really have to look forward to that night?

The other reason is more from a religious standpoint. The “Scriptures” teach us that our body is a temple made in the image of God. Any sexual sin against that body (ie. not made in the image of God) is defiling God’s temple.

Really when you think about it, you are breaking the FIRST commandment! This goes for “loving yourself” so-to-speak.

The marriage of a man and a woman is a union in the IMAGE of God. And God’s design is for us to share each other sexually within a marriage.

It’s a tough pill to swallow for someone who hasn’t gone without sex for more than a week since I was eightteen. It’s even a tougher pill to swallow since I’m not really Christian. But for some reason, it just seems right. We both agree on that and we are struggling with our bodily desires (aka sin).