NoJoMo #7: About Underwear
It’s silly really. The little disagreement that I’m having with some of my friends about underwear that has left me feeling more than a little disgruntled.
It started because one of them found a pair of lacy pink underwear in their 12 year old daughters dirty laundry. They were like, low slung hip huggers and really not all that revealing, aside from their sheer nature.
I was the only one that didn’t think they were inappropriate for a 12 year old. They told me that lacy underwear = sexy underwear and why would we want to sexualize our 12 year olds. I don’t know, because 12 year olds aren’t going to think those underwear are sexy unless we, as adults, tell them that they are? Because I think that underwear like that are a lot less sexy and revealing than say, a thong? Because quite frankly, they’re underwear, and if you’ve raised your daughter not to show her underwear, then putting on a pair of lace panties isn’t going to automatically make her a whore??
So I’m curious, what age do you think is appropriate for a girl to start wearing lacy panties? Even the guys I asked about this felt that 12 years old was too young for lacy underwear. I see nothing wrong with them!
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I don’t have kids, so I can’t really say if I would like my child wearing lacy underwear… but I have to admit, at first glance, it does make me feel a little uncomfortable. I think that it’s not uncommon for little girls to like lacy, frilly clothing. It’s what they’ve been brought up to consider as ‘girly’. The problem, I think, lies in how our society increasingly infantilizes grown women,so that there is now a link between ‘girly’ things and ‘sexy’ things. So, I guess in a way I do agree with you. There’s nothing inherently wrong with young girls (or boys!) liking lacy clothes, including underwear, it’s the messages that adult society attaches to it that makes it inappropriate.
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I don’t see anything wrong with it either. For a 12 year old girl lacey underwear to HER probably just means girly, fancy and cute ya know? Everyone sexualizes everything but what about girls/women who just want to wear something nice and frilly to feel good about themselves? It doesn’t ALWAYS have to be about sex!!
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I don’t know how I feel about this. I would not buy my child lacy undies. Fun funky ones, sure, but in cotton.
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Not sure. A part of me instantly gets a little nauseas thinking about it. The other part agrees and as long as she isn’t doing it for attention or something nuts like that, who cares.
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I don’t see a problem with it… at least 20 years ago I wouldn’t have. I’ve seen a lot of 12 year olds these days that think sex is fun and if they have some sexy underwear boys will be more attracted to them. On the flip side of that if the person has absolute confidence in the child and know that they raised her right I would see no problem with it. They should just really be aware of what’s going on in the life of the child to make sure it was a choice that was right.
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