Love him and other ramblings.

For some reason this week I have had several discussion regarding parenting, patience and loving children.  I want to say first that I am not a perfect parent..I wish I was.  I believe that for the most part a child is not born a pain the ass.  I believe that we shape children and sometimes we teach them things without realizing we are fucking them up.  Take arguing for example….if we fight and argue much less get physical in front of a child, they will think that it is ok to yell and scream at people.  I work in a mall and everyday I see parents…..mostly mothers that beat their children down.  I dont mean physical-however that prob does happen behind closed doors- I am talking about how they talk to their kid.  I hear..Shut up….your stupid….are you stupid.. hurry the fuck up… stop whining dumbass.  I hear much worse often.  It is so sad.  I see the hurt in their eyes and I see the pain in their faces.  These little kids depend on us for everything…..everything!!!!  And here you are calling them names.  Even calling them a jerk or whatever is damaging.  PARENTS START LOVING YOUR BABIES!!!!!

Think about this:  Lets say there was one place to work.  You HAD to work there.  You had to work in order to make a living and you never had a day off. There was no welfare and no one to help you out. You had to work there for at least 18 years. You are completely dependent on this place. You work 24 hours a day 7 days a week for at least 5 years. Now lets say your boss called all the shots.  When you eat, what you do all day…what is available for you…etc.  NOW, lets throw in something else.  Your boss is a cunt. She treats you like shit and tells you that you are stupid and that you are retarded and slow at everything. She yells at you and swats you for every little thing. 

Are you happy at work?  hell no of course not.  Do you just wish your boss was kind and sweet and helpful and nice?  Of course.  But remember, you cant leave this job. You have to work 24/7 for at least the first 5 yrs and then you get about an 8 hour break during the day.  Think next time before you speak to your child like they are stupid.  Stop calling them names because they will remember it.  You will be resented. They will hate you and even worse…..they will become a burden to society….they will be white/brown/black trash and they will not make you proud. They will be horrible adults all because YOU shaped them into being a piece of shit.

Love your babies…..or give them to me and I will love them.  I gave my first baby up for adoption because I didnt know 100% if I could give him all the love he deserves.  I do not regret that. I was 16. Now he is 17 and he knows that I love him.  I may have been one of those impatient yelly parents that I see every single day here in the mall.

Now I have Aaden.  oh Aaden…..he has my heart.  I will write another entry here in a little bit after I post this one. I need a whole sep. entry for my love of Aaden.