Keeping busy

Continuing to spend my weekends with A, who is still surprised at being on the receiving end of kindnesses and such. I made him breakfast this past weekend (keep in mind that my weekends include Monday instead of Saturday for now, although the schedule at work is changing), on Sunday and Monday both, and made supper on Monday and then leftovers for his lunch on Tuesday AND had lunch ready when he was able to get away for a short time to actually eat. I’ve also been doing a little therapy for his back, which is in hard shape at the moment and causing him lots of pain. It’s mostly muscular but a little tricky to treat since he has extra weight on his abdomen which makes it harder to get at the spinal muscle I need to get at. The easiest access to psoas is through the abdomen and past the intestines, since it comes off the front of the vertebrae. It’s a beast. He also needs to do the stretches and exercises I’ve shown him and one of these days I’ll make him do them in front of me. He’s going to end up a bent over old man if he doesn’t start taking care of himself right now. And we could both stand to lose a few pounds (kilos, even…about 10 for me and 20 or so for him).

Son has moved out of my house and left a huge mess for #1 Daughter to deal with, since she and her family are moving in. Son really let me down in several ways, some not surprising, given how he is, but some other things just don’t seem like him. I have to chat with him one of these days. In any case, I think #1 Daughter and her hubby will do well there. She said they want to live there forever, and I told her to get through the first winter with the realities of that house first. It’s one thing to live there and help with the wood and so on, and another to be the responsible party. And A really likes my house and wants to get into it to insulate and fix and jazz up. We joked about if we split up before summer that he would still end up there, living in the attic, fixing stuff up and I’d get a call from my daughter, "A’s in the attic; he said you’d understand." And I would.

Not that there’s any sign of any break-up in the near future, but you never know where life will take you. So far, I want to keep him. And he seems to want to keep me, too. For him, it’s not the big L word so much, but two others: commitment and devotion. Apparently, I have the commitment from him, and the devotion factor isn’t too far behind, so that’s all good. Commitment is good, and he has that from me, too. And the L word has been dropped into random conversations from both of us, so that’s also good.

There’s more, but there are things I need to be doing this morning. I’ll be back.