Way to listen, asshole.

You know, my dad never listens to me. We talked last August about going to India. At that time, I expressed interest. “Hrm. Might as well.”

He brought it up a week or two ago and I told him I didn’t want to go. It was the first time since THE SUMMER that he brought it up. He comes to me today while I’m clearing his car off and tells me that he’s about to buy the tickets. Then acts all flabbergasted that I don’t want to go.

Hello, do you pay attention at all?

And of course, rather than just respect my choice, he tries to convince me. I point this out, and he doesn’t really have much of a reaction beyond reiterating his reasons. As I said to him, “Great reasons for you, but not for me.”

We know I have other plans. I’ll tell him eventually.

You know, I take issue when people think certain things are an “experience” and cause you to “grow”. Those positive experiences have never really changed me at all. I scratch my head and go, “Okay, do I care?” It’s the things that catch you off-guard that tend to make you grow, not going to some third-world country with the bomb.

Maybe next year.

Yoshiboy

December 9, 2005

parents always try and convince you, they never respect your oppinion….i guess they find it hard to let go. They dont want to see you learn the hard way…i feel its better to learn the hard way.

Pixel

Frustrating.

Hrm…now, granted, I wasn’t there, but I’m slightly concerned about how your major talk with your parents is going to go…mostly because you’re still so angry at your dad. I mean, it doesn’t sound like he did anything truly horrible here, other than not communicating consistently– he doesn’t know that you have other plans, so he was just working based on the last piece of information he had.

I just really want your big talk with your folks to go well, but I think the only way for that to happen is going to take some soul searching on your part, and a willingness to let go of some of your resentment towards your folks. Trying to see them as humans who made mistakes, maybe forgiving them a little. I know it’s hard believe me. But I just think it will help a lot in the long run.

Ok, reading again, sorry– now I understand that you were angry because he didn’t remember a conversation from a week ago. But…all that really means is that he has a bad memory, or doesn’t retain conversations well. (Which I think is something you can relate to, too..?) I’m just not sure that he did anything intentionally wrong here.

I’m talking about preparing yourself in the sense that you could try to step back and forgive him a little bit. If you jump in there as you are now, where you get so angry at him for such minor things, I have a bad feeling that you are going to be irreversibly angry at him if the “I have a son” conversation doesn’t go that well, initially. Preparing yourself in the case of the Paige/Wendi convos

caused anxiety because you were putting it off and building the conversations up in your head. But even in those cases, you had to get yourself in the right frame of mind for the conversations to go well. That’s what I’m talking about, here. This is an important, very honest, very grown up conversation you plan on having with your parents, and having it go somewhat smoothly will be important in

the long run. Plus, your son has two sets of grandparents. You don’t need to create a rift that can’t be healed, if it can be avoided. The only way I was able to start having peaceful family relations was to look at myself at let go of my anger. My dad made mistakes, so did yours. But both of them are human. Forgiving him- really forgiving him- could be the most grown up thing you’ll ever do.

Well, I would think about it again. Then again, I have a bad fascination with India. And it’s men. So maybe you should disregard my note. *nod*

Let me rephrase that: It’s BEAUTIFUL men.

Although the Egyptian I dated had a GINORMOUS penis.

wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee notes!!!!!!!!!!

give him a break. you’ll be doing the same thing to ryan one day.

gypsyincarnate

RYN: I meant Leigh. HDS started writing it as Lay as an inside joke, so I bit off that. 😛

Hurricane Katie

If I had someone willing to take me on an all-expenses-paid vacation to a country I may never have the chance to experience again, I’d JUMP at the opportunity! Seriously, think about it. The way this world is headed, there are some places you may not ever, EVER get a chance to see again. I visited Israel when I was 12. Glad I got to. Now… who knows if I would go?

it wasn’t a mean thing to say. what is the point of being a parent if you’re not going to urge your children to experience new things?

the Sam.

Parents like to try to make you better by making you do the things they think will make them better.

Scorpio Frost

*smirks*

ryn: re-read this entry. you’re dad wants you to see something new, and you’re critisizing it. call it cliche if you want, but you’re acting like a teenager. don’t be mad at me for that.

Mayor of Nerdville

My sister does that shit to me all the time. We’ll be talking about what our weekend plans are, and I’ll say something like, “Maybe I’ll swing by and get you and we can do something.” Just like that, as simple and non-commital as it sounds when you read it. Then, the next day, she’ll call me and go, “So what are we gonna do today?” and goes on to list some stops she’d like to make and all that.

So I’m like waking up at noon, and the SECOND I turn my ringer on, she’s blowing up my phone trying to figure out what our grand plans are for the day. She has the nerve to act offended when I tell her that I was talking about IF I was going out to do something, because she took what I said, as you saw, non-commital, and turns it into some big weekend to-do. Sheesh. Family. I feel you on this.

sigh…parents..

Morons. Family are morons.