Thoughts on Loving Blowjobs.

Wow, that was really sweet:)

Ooh I got the first note!

oh. do tell about the bad BJ experience.

everything will be okay hun, no worries

very interesting entry…i dont think it is selfish at all to recieve, because, i know, as a girl, if i like the guy, i like doing it for them. But I know your fears, because when it comes back to me, I never know what to do while it happens, and I am afraid they dont like it…so i can understand where you are coming from

*hugs* The pressure is both ways … *giggles* I’ve always wondered what to do when receiving oral … do you look or not look? do you close your eyes or keep them open? … but now I’m so comfortable with Martin I just do whatever … sometimes I look sometimes I just close my eyes and enjoy! 😀

“What exactly is one supposed to do when receiving oral sex, anyway?” personally, i think twirling a flaming baton adds a touch of class.

I think you’d like genuine affection lavished upon you, dude. not just head on cock, suck suck suck.

i feel like that a lot latelyah…!…loving sex…nothing is greater<br<

mikhail used to get cranky if he didnt get his post-orgasm cuddle. …i bet steven will be the same way. *laughs*

I find I don’t enjoy oral sex unless I completely relax – otherwise I get fearful that I will get hurt… seeing as the partner is complete control.

I still love you even if you said I have a fake smile!

You’re supposed to lay there and enjoy it 😛 Or at least pretend you are.

“Loving blowjob” seems like a bit of an oxymoron to me. —

*looks up* I don’t think it’s an oxymoron. Blowjobs are a lot more ‘personal’ than simply just boning away. It’s giving of yourself without thought of receiving (in the simplest sense of the word) in return. Most girls (sluts not withstanding) only give oral to guys who really deserve it– guys who are caring enough to make them WANT to drive down that One-Way street without hesitation! (c)

(c) and as far as ‘not knowing what to do,’ that is EXACTLY why I don’t enjoy being on the receiving end of Oral. My mind wanders. I start thinking about things WAY OFF the task at hand. And then, through no fault of my own, I find myself distracted and bored. I’m a DOer, not a GETer. *shrugs*

I’ve always wondered what a blow job would feel like.. and one time I tried to imagine it… and I think if I were a guy I would want the girl to have long hair so I could feel her hair on my legs. Everyone has a bad experience, hence why there are so many sex maniacs or asexual people in the world.

I’m afraid of penises.

They’ll fade away, everyone’s nervous their first time out of the stalls, so to speak. And personally, I like it when Timmeh grabs my hair or head and moves it the way he wants it. It’s secksey.

RYN: The jocks persay don’t phase me as annoying people. I can’t stand it how most kids my age are so infused by degrading another type of person just because of their personality. I’m the girl who talks to anyone who is willing to talk. We don’t have gym class outside. We’re doing that co-ed volleyball in gym class this week. It sucks because I get bitched at because I cant hit the ball.

yeah, seriously, what ARE you supposed to do? *ponders* Sit there and just like it?

hmm…I never really thought about a bj this way. I’m usually do it for selfish reasons, cause it gets me really hot. *blinks* wow. hot. yeah.

Your are the perfect guy to receive one because of the amount of honest feelings you have on the subject. Be well,

care to share what happened with your bad experience? that sucks mightily. i had a real “thing” about letting my husband go down on me for years… I dont know what it was. Then I had my first gf, and all my issues melted away… now I have no problem letting him go there, and cum just fine.

and about the talking and cuddling… awwwwwwwww. that is so cute. much more like women are “supposed” to be (sterotypically that is *rolls eyes*) any girl will be lucky to get you 🙂

kept seeing your notes on mombi/zg’s diary and had to read you. don’t be offended that i find you terribly amusing..

what do you do? Oh my god. you enjoy.. you savour every moment and focus on purely on bliss:) hmm.. tantra.

I just enjoy it. Encourage, mumble, shiver, etc. Open or closed eyes, it doesn’t matter to me. This strikes me as the kind of thing we need to SIT DOWN to talk over. Loving was the keyword there.

dont worry..ab0ut that one bad experience..or even if it turns into a few more…it will get better. my bf had a few issues also…its all good and fun i guess. when the time comes again…u will just do what feels right…try not to ruin the fun out of it all by thinking about it so much. just go with the flow.

>understanding that enjoyment is in the doing, and orgasm at the end doesn’t validate the act, and lack of orgasm doesn’t make it pointless. I remember playing with Josh’s penis for hours on our honeymoon. I got him very excited but wasn’t able to get him off that way at first. We just accepted that (he thought he didn’t like blowjobs for that reason — ha!), and had lots of fun other ways.>

I tend to be the girl that will only give a fellatio if I really like the guy (and have only a mild aversion to his penis – there are some men I have loved that I just couldn’t do that for). When I do go down on a guy it is because I really want to satisfy him and because I get joy out of doing so. I definitely believe in the Loving Blowjob.