On Hats.

Cliff remarked how he can’t really see my parents copulating. Probably a good thing. In attempting to explain my parents’ relationship, I ended up using a hat analogy. I say so often that my dad likes wearing the Penis Hat. It’s not far from the truth. He likes pretending he has some illusion of authority. And my mom likes wearing the Wife Hat. She likes getting up, drinking her coffee, and gossiping with other females. She likes having food ready for my dad when he comes home, and he likes uh. I don’t know, he has a lot of odd querks which can’t be readily explained.

In short, as Wendi and I have known for ages, it’s a facade. It’s not unlike many families who just pretend. Play the roll. My mom’s resigned herself to being stuck with my dad. My dad wants to have a family, and so this is what he has. Wendi and I have never worn hats. There’s no need to expound further, it’s as plain as day. All I know is I don’t want a facade, and I sure as hell don’t want a marriage like they have. My instincts cry out whenever things are ingenuine, beats me how people can stand to live a lifetime of lies.

Zedlavharas.

Fear of the unknown will do that to a person.

You,

I think sometimes you’d be surprised. I honestly thought my parents were like that, after 30 years of marriage how could they love each other? It was lies and they were just staying together because the Church told them divorce was bad. But I was wrong. By all outward appearances they could well hate each other. But they’ve started going away on weekends together, and I catch them looking at each other with a spark I just couldn’t see for 20 years. They don’t hold hands or kiss and they don’t have proper conversations when any of their kids are around, but since I’ve moved out and come home to visit unexpectedly, I’ve caught them sharing baths. I hear them having in depth conversations while I’m in bed. I see them in a way I just couldn’t until I was old enough to understand that as marriages mature they change. You can’t live on lust or even just love. Marriage is a job and sometimes it’s not fun, but if you really love them you’ll continue to work at it even if that does mean havign a meal ready on the table when hubby gets home…

So I dunno, maybe you’re right, but maybe you’re wrong. Maybe it just seems like a facade because people from our parents generation have different ideas and ideals than ours. You know your parents better than I do though, so you can ignore me if you want, after all I’ve just been lurking since the Sims updates seem to have stopped lol but I do know that apperances can be very very deciving when it comes to married couples.

You might disagree with me here, but I personally think that the only people who have the right to judge a marriage are in the marriage.

gypsyincarnate

October 24, 2006

As long as they’re happy wearing hats, who’d mind?

goodgolly

never wear a hat darlin. and never EVER settle. life is too damn short.