How To Eat Pussy.
Maybe I’ve been lucky, but I just haven’t had much of a problem pleasuring my ladyfriends orally. I’d go as far as to say that cunnilingus is easier to learn than fellatio. Fellatio requires a lot of technique, and a lot of endurance. Prior to engaging in the act for the first time, I used to think I’d need to do tongue exercises. Yet, I’ve performed cunnilingus for an hour and a half, and my tongue didn’t get tired at all. All that’s required to pleasure a lady orally is a bit of patience, and a bit of perceptiveness.
I’m surprised I’ve never written this out.
All girls are different. I reckon I enjoy trying to figure out what a lady needs. First thing I do is make sure a lady is comfortable. Kissing is awesome foreplay. At least at first, simply diving between a lady’s thighs can make her feel a little uncomfortable. What about her? Once between a lady’s thighs, I almost never start attacking the clit. I like to indulge in kissing a lady’s thighs, and around her vulva. Makes me more comfortable, makes her more comfortable. I get a sense of her scent and taste, which makes me want to lick her more.
Communication is pretty critical, though it’s understandable if some girls don’t know what to say. This is cunnilingus, not philosophy. Most verbal or nonverbal cues can amount to “OW”, “Try something else”, “That feels nice”, and “OMG.” Not much more complicated than that. Simply pay attention, it’s not that hard to figure out whether what you’re doing is helping or harming her arousal.
It should go without saying, but the bulk of cunnilingus will amount to clitoral licking. Different clits have different levels of sensitivity. Some girls like really strong sucking and rough licking, whereas the same attention on another girl would make her scream in pain. Start gentle and work your way up to see how much she can take. Or, simply ask her. Most girls know whether they can handle direct clitoral stimulation based on their masturbation habits.
Pornographic depiction of cunnilingus are completely inadequate, as all the magic happens out-of-view. Long licks are done specifically for the camera. I’ve never done anything like that.
How does one lick a clit? I couldn’t tell you, I use a different stroke every time I do it. I have a tactile memory of different tongue strokes, but most of it I just make up on the spot, based on what a lady has liked in the past. Broad of my tongue, back of my tongue, side of my tongue, flicking, tossing the clit from side to side. Not to mention varying degrees of clit-sucking. Whatever you do, what’s critical is that you don’t stop. Sometimes it takes a little bit for there to be a reaction. But if after a while there isn’t much, switch it up a little until you DO get a reaction. Be patient, be stubborn, and don’t give up.
Cliff coined the phrase “Wandering Clit Syndrome.” I haven’t really experienced this, but I can say that isolating the clit is important. Sometimes I have to use a hand or two to stabilize the flesh around a lady’s clit. Other times, I have to wrap my hands around her thighs. Either way, most girls tend to rock their hips involuntarily as they near orgasm. You have to be able to move with her. If you lose her clit, you’re screwed.
If I master the finger`n`lick, I’m sure I’ll write about it. I’ve done it, but I haven’t quite found the right rhythm or position for it. After all, I’m sure I’ll redux this entry in the future.
Typically after a girl orgasms, I’ll get told to stop. Clit gets sensitive, and such. Some girls, if you’re patient, can be ready for a second round of pussylicking.
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I’ve seen tons of guides online. I read them when I was virginistic. I recall buying a book on cunnilingus, after I’d already mastered it. It taught me nothing I didn’t know already, nothing I didn’t learn from experience. I don’t think cunnilingus is all that hard. Every girl I’ve met who has not orgasmed from cunnilingus, I know the reason is because no boy ever tried. A few licks here and there doesn’t equal being bent on making a girl orgasm with one’s tongue! I understand that girls don’t always need to orgasm, but I stop under one condition: She tells me to stop. That’ll be either before orgasm or after orgasm. Either way, I stop knowing I did all I could to make her kitty happy.
I don’t believe in tricks. Because every girl is different. Like I said, I think figuring out what a girl likes is kind of fun! I don’t think I have anything else to say.
i’m linking people to this entry, that ok? x
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id say youre a pro. ;P
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your writing style makes it sound more like you’re putting together a cabinet, or something.
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your note is camouflaged by my background. i think i’ll put you on faves- entry up. x
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I love this entry, even though I’ve never experienced it before. I can almost imagine what it would feel like reading this. . . That being said, if I squeeze my legs any tighter, I’ll get a cramp. 😉
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Come on over, Hon…
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Hmm, I find mastering the finger or two is essential to consider oneself truly skilled at cunnilingus. Most of the chicks I’ve been with have asked for the finger straight out. It’s a f*cken awkward position, but there isn’t any help for it. Obviously, it’s easier to get the finger in wet. Everything else I agree with. All it takes is a listening ear, and not assuming you know best, not her.
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Came here from Sensual, I wrote about how I do this as well a quite a few entries back. All girls are different is the key
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hooray for men like you! I guess I got lucky because my boy loves to do that for me. And yes, post orgasm, all I want is a hug, not more business going on down there.
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RYN: Really? I’ll try it some-time, thanks for the tip. I’m sleeping on my lonesome atm, but I’m sure it will pass soon. And yes, you WILL get a crick in your neck from not being able to just rest your head while doing it, but on the positive side, once she’s done, you can give her a nicely-lubricated pussy a good seeing-to 🙂 Or a bit of the old ‘in-out, in-out.’ Or a good rogering.
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Yeah – I’ve had chicks wipe themselves down – they were so wet. Also put a towel under their haunches before oral. I probably could experiment with my ex-gf, but considering I just broke it off with her because I didn’t feel the same way, that would be evil. I think you should add a section on bed position. Headboards can get in the road – I used to position her on the edge of the bed.
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I agree with the above. Fingers are also essential and make it even better when the boy actually knows what he’s doing. Thank you for trying to educate those who don’t! 😛
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Very, very good. Um…would you mind if I copy this to Peter?
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Whoops. Shit. I thought better of it AFTER I nominated you to RC. *blushes*
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Great tutorial. I’m still baffled by guys who “can’t find it.” Dude, how can you NOT FIND IT. It’s not like it’s hiding, or it moves around or something. Sheesh.
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this just reminds me how long its been *pout*. Sean said he wanted to wait until we were at least engaged before he did that. WTF? We can f*ck each other’s brains out, and I can give head, but him going down on me is off limits?! I don’t think so. Just another reason he’s on the Ex List. lol
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I know. I suddenly had an attack of conscience when I thought of how many younguns/relgious/fanatic whatevers are on OD. And they’ll see that right on the old RC! HOW TO EAT PUSSY! Hehehe. Actually it’s kinda funny now that I think about it. I have this terrible habit of doing things compulsively and then regretting them, and then like, not…I sway back and forth so easily.
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Eh. It SOUNDS good…but then, I’m just difficult to please. 😐
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::applauds:: Excellent 🙂 Now I should send some guys I know over here to read this!
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ryn: oh, he put out…. not that it was GOOD. I really hate to say that size matters…. but it does. lol You slut! lol Not that I have room to talk. 😛
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You don’t mention anything about thoroughly pounding her afterwards. Only once has oral not made me really, really want to be fucked. And that time .. well, it was the best ever, and will never be beaten. Ever. For sure.
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I agree with Kelly… I’m ready to go after oral. Most definitely. 🙂
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*Squirms*
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The woman would not only be more comfortable. She would most likely have an orgasm every time ? IF she sat on your face with you licking till she is satisfied. You might lose your enthusia. Keep gonig though till the ladiy smiles and crys with joy. You wont be abe to get away till she gets off anyway
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and I’ll be promptly emailing this anonymously to a certain guy I know…. thank you very very much.
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usually, hubby will use a finger or 2 while doing this. (did the last time he went down on me.. which was.. january 1st.) it is complicated, and sometimes not comfortable, according to him. i totally understand. as for his endurance for doing this… lacking in this dept is all i can say. i’d like it more than i get it. i ask, and still don’t. (maybe I just need to take a lover to satisfy my ORALneeds. *laughs*)
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thank god
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ryn: yes, it was quite small. At least I can call the whole situation a learning experience! For many reasons.
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good entry. I recently found out that my husband is better than I at clit licking. He has had more practice *shrugs*
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great entry, as always! 🙂 thought this might interest you: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/magazine/6251239.stm
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Found you on Reader’s Choice, but simply can’t be reading this at 9:30 in the morning. Maybe more toward the afternoon, but definately not in the morning! I’ll be back!
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which is why i thought i’d send you this! x
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if you want to incorporate the fingers, it’s easier if you have the chick on the edge of the bed and you kneel on the floor. well, i think it’s easier, anyways.
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So I’m back, and I considered inviting you over lol Then I realized you lived in Jersey and just might take me up on that offer lol Well if your close enough you could always hang out with my boyfriend, maybe he’ll learn something!
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I suppose your right, guess I’ll have to settle for you lol jk Where in Jersey are you?
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ryn: I almost feel sorry for him because he will never experience deep throating. lol And you- don’t tease me like that! 😉
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Why not just tell the guy to ask the girl what she wants? Seems like each one’s different. Good guide, though. I did feel a bit like I was reading an instructional guide on how to put together a Huffy. Maybe we could compare clit-licking motifs. Ha. Enjoyed, as I’m sure my wife will.
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My wife claims to be the blowjob expert, and I must confess, I’ve had the rare male multiple from her mouth. The key is — ready for a bit of Buddhist nonsense — to think outside yourself. Imagine your girl is blowing some other guy. You can’t feel a thing. You can’t — oh my God you just came. Works every time.
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*showing to my b/f* Kidding! He’s pretty good at that. But this is a very good entry with very good tips. Some guys (like my b/f) misinterpret the helpful advice from their g/fs and think that they’re doing a bad job. But you really can’t know how the other gender gets their pleasure unless you discuss it.
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I suppose it is a bit like that — the difference is, I get to enjoy it. You’re left out in the cold. Just something to consider.
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ah, to me thats no fun. There’s hardly anything to play with! Gotta have something to fondle and tongue.
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yes, I suppose there is. But I haven’t come across one I couldn’t handle, yet. Its the toys that can get a bit too big to handle sometimes
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this is such a work-safe topic. lol I can’t go look at the pic. (I could, but between the notes I have been leaving and this entry, I am so afraid IT is gunna kick my ass!) *pout* gotta wait until I get home!
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this should be required reading for all males
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re: pics- niiiiice! 🙂
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yeah, not so sure I like the completely shaved look. But thats just me.
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I guess I will just have to take your word for it. 🙂
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if you go by that logic than I should be completely shaved all the time. Its January and it was in the 70’s today. yeesh.
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*SNORT* You lovable tard, you!
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i am probably the ONLY female who doesnet enjoy a good lickin- i dont think its the male though, its me who doesent appreciate a head between my legs hehe
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I’m so adding you. Your entries are original and welcoming in an open arms way.
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Oh look! I squirmed and smirked. Check it…would you ever be interested in writing something for our Sex Talks Zine that will be coming out sometime this year (hopefully)? If not, hey, whatever. But it’s good to be the co-editor. I think this could benefit people. Oh god I’d love to compare it to a female version. And now I’m thinking aloud. *goneness*
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