How To Be A Demon In The Sac.

(It’s what I’ve been saying for months. Pay attention to what works, continue it. If something isn’t working, change it up. Over time, you’ll learn how to switch gears. That’s all there is to this entry. Seriously.)

Forget everything you think you know about sex. That’s right, forget it. Those tips you picked up from cosmo? Forget it. That map of where the clitoris is? Forget that, too. Basic contraceptive knowledge? Well, I suppose that’s something you can’t learn on your own. Knowing anatomy is merely helpful in being a good lover, it’s not something you need to know beforehand.

Don’t think about your partner as whatever gender s/he is. Hell, don’t even think of him/her as a human. Consider this person someone you want to share your body with. And conversely, as someone whose body is about to be shared with you. YOU! This person’s body is like no other. And thus I reiterate: Forget everything you think you know. Being good in bed has nothing to do with whatever you did to your previous partner.

Rather simply, the best lovers are perceptive to what their partner wants. This doesn’t even necessitate verbalization. Consider this person’s body. Touch it. See what the response is. Make a mental note. Was there a positive response? If so, continue. Was there a null response? Move on. Was there was a positive response which waned? Ah! That means you can come back later.

Simple. Skin is a very powerful organ. There’s a million other places than the clitoris or the penis. Orgasm is not a goal, it’s a side-effect. Aiming for orgasm misses the point. Over time, you’ll develop your own mental map of your partner’s body, which is not something you can read about in ANY book. Freedom of experimentation is all it takes. And I’m not even talking hot wax or giant vibrating dildos. Toys merely accent our already available capabilities, they do not replace them.

Frankly, if you aim for orgasm and don’t deviate from that, you won’t learn all the other ways your partner can be pleasured (and therefore orgasm.) It’s like relying on a Jack when there’s still a Queen, King, and Ace out there. The funny thing is that even if we knew nothing about anatomy, if we had the curiosity to explore, we’d eventually find those diagramed parts anyway. But without darting to them first, there’s a better chance we’ll develop a healthy respect for them. A healthy respect for curiosity and a willingness to explore your partner without the pressure of orgasm can make for very intense physical intimacy. When you pay attention to how your partner is responding to you, you can not fail but learn how to make that person moan with ecstacy at your will.