Emotional Willpower.

“I’ve done this a million times before. Emotional maturity is recognizing emotions, being able to separate them. The trick is recognizing that we can be our own cause of our emotions. Sometimes we just dwell, seeking of the comfort in being sad. There’s a time and place for that. But right now, these emotions will not change this situation. Because this evening has gone on long enough. There’s another day that can be however I want it to be, corny or not.

Perspective is a powerful thing. Some days I have it better than others. Tomorrow is another day to make it happen.” – me, last night

I remember when I couldn’t do that. I’d just sink. But now, if I really want to, I can regain my perspective. I just decide, “I really feel like being happy right now.”

Sometimes, I can’t even believe it works.

Patrisha

March 28, 2006

My sister had a sign on the back of her computer room door. It said, “I do not smile because I am happy. I smile to make myself happy”

The Kid

Perhaps you should have a sign like Patrisha’s sister’s sign…sounds like what you’re saying.

KillingMeSoftly

Another perception is reality case.

“I remember when I couldn’t do that. I’d just sink. But now, if I really want to, I can regain my perspective. I just decide, “I really feel like being happy right now.” Sometimes, I can’t even believe it works.” Gosh that makes me proud. : ) And HAPPY. Just a suggestion? See if you can elminate “corny” from your vocabulary. I’ve noticed that you tend to use it with things that might seem

“too happy”, or “too positive” or “too sincere” or whatever. I used to do it too– like I was afraid to be all those positive adjectives because I thought someone would judge me or think I was nerdy or whatever. It was scary for me to be fully happy and sincere because I was *still* afraid of people not approving. Anyways, I think if you could stop judging yourself in that way, it might help

a lot. I don’t know if you *are* afraid of being fully happy or positive, but it’s a thought. And if you are, I’ll let you in on a secret– the only people who don’t like being around happy, confident people are insecure, unhappy people. Don’t let them force you to censor yourself. I think you have a whole reserve of potential loving optimism that you have yet to tap into. Once you do, you’re just

going to be a big ball of happiness, encapsulated. Meaning…one day I think you could easily be *that person* who brightens the room, makes everybody happy just by smiling at them. You have SO much to give. It’s just a question of letting yourself reach your full potential, that’s all. *hugs* I’ll talk with ya later–

You can help you the best.

victim_of_obsession

Tbh, imho emotions can be a bitch.

Dibrom

Yeah. I feel you. I wish I didn’t suffer from borderline personality disorder. Sometimes I can’t distinguish what I’m feeling or what exactly the BPD is deciding for me.