10 years of marriage

On August 7th my husband and I will have been married for 10 years. I can’t believe how fast times flies. I’m so blessed to be married to the man.  I really do love him. Every guy that I dated before him was selfish and immature. My husband is a true partner. He cooks, cleans, supports me in my choices, grocery shops with me, and now helps me with our new baby. We do life together.

In my 10 years of marriage I have learned a lot. This day in age a woman can’t have it all and do it all alone. I don’t know why some people try to sell that as truth. It’s impossible to be a mother that’s present for her children and spouse and also kicking ass at a full time job. Something will get neglected, which is why I knew my husband was the one for me. I was so picky about who I would marry because I wanted a life partner, not a sex partner. I think so many people get caught up in the romance and sexual attraction and have really unrealistic ideas about marriage and relationships. Attraction is super important, but I think a lot of people don’t realize that it’s lower on the totem pole of what makes a marriage work. When I think about my marriage and what makes it work, it all comes down to core values. My husband and I share similar views on love, marriage, God, family, money, and children. We enjoy a lot of the same activities and overall we grew up in similar family cultures. I know several married couples that fight often and I can pretty much narrow it down to the fact that they don’t have similar life lenses. A couple that is like-minded is much less likely to fight.

I’m so grateful to be married to a man that I not only love, but like as well. Sure, nobody is perfect and I do fight with my hubby on occasion, but it’s only over small things. I will take our dumb fights over huge core value problems any day. It’s good to be happily married. Dating is awful. I feel bad for the swipers out there on their apps trying to find a diamond in the rough.