Fight with a friend.

I hate fighting with friends.  My best friend and I got in a little tift yesterday–and I hate to say it, but for ONCE, I believe I was 100% in the right.

Without getting *too* in the weeds (and feel free to look at previous posts to see what all went down), my husband was unfaithful to me with someone he worked with.  We have since healed and moved past it (still have some traumatic moments), but since having a baby, have overall been in a much better spot.  My best friend was integral in helping me heal from that scenario too–that should be said!

My best friend is about 7 years older than me (turning 40 this year), and she recently went on a Tinder date with a married man.  She obviously understands that this is NOT okay with me at all, seeing as I have something to say about people cheating on their spouses, so she quickly ended it with him.  HOWEVER–one thing that frustrated me with her decision in this, is that she used my experience/situation to end it with him, saying she needed to “be a good friend” to me.  I’m sorry but, is NOT being a homewrecker enough to not engage in a relationship with a married man?  Why did she need to use my experience to end it with this guy?

Yesterday, she was explaining the married man situation to her hairdresser, and shared that she “couldn’t be with him because her best friend was cheated on by her husband.”  She THEN proceeds to tell her hairdresser my business, showed her my PRIVATE Instagram, and UNBLOCKED my husband’s mistress Instagram to compare us!  Oh, guess what?!  Hairdresser went to HIGH SCHOOL with the mistress!  So now, my BEST FRIEND has shared my personal business (which was the worst part of my life thus far), including my name and the involved parties to a complete f***ing stranger.  One thing to note here too, is that my husband’s mistress is literally 10 years younger than us (gross, I know), which means if this hairdresser went to high school with her, she’s gotta be 23-27, so she’s young, and since our former city (we have since moved across the country from there) is SMALL, I’m not confident this hairstylist will keep her mouth shut.

Anyway, my best friend texts me all this thinking I’m going to be happy that she did this?  “Well my hairdresser said you were so much prettier than her.”  Excuse me?  So you COMPARED us?  Not to mention, I have worked tirelessly to put this behind me, so her texting me all of this bullshit just stirred everything up.  There is no comparison.  I am resoundingly better than the mistress on every level. Yes, I am better looking (that’s neither here nor there), but I am just an overall better person than her.  Obviously.  So I stuck up for myself (in which my husband was proud of me, I never do that) and now SHE’S not speaking to me.  I told her I don’t want my personal HELL to be hairstyle shop talk.  My husband is pretty pissed (and this is the guy who told everyone in his life about his wrongdoings), and thinks she was using me to gossip.  Disgusting.

Anyway–I will forgive her, eventually.  Not today.  I love her and she’s a good person.  But this has me seeing red.  Anyway.  We’ll see if she texts me.  Again, I’m wrong a LOT, but for once I feel as though I’m justified in my frustration here and she made a mistake.

Much love,

~Elle.