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I probably should have said something earlier, but the thought never occurred to me. On May 19, 2012, I will be getting married. I proposed the day before Thanksgiving last year, and, of course, she said yes. With the whirlwind of excitement, we told everybody, and they were all excited, and then we realized that was a bad idea.

You see, people like to get excited, and when they get excited, they get really excited – and when they get really excited, they lose all consciousness of the words that come out of their mouth. Once they’ve lost this consciousness, it all of a sudden becomes a fight for attention; extensive promises are made that will eventually be left unfulfilled.

In case you were wondering, I’m not referring to anyone in particular, but there’s always someone in your group of friends, maybe even a family member, who feels that the last wedding they attended or were a part of wasn’t done right, and now their time has come to make it right once more! This is where they take control, or at least try to.

We originally set a date for October 6, 2012, thinking an October wedding would be wonderful. This is precisely the point where you don’t tell anyone until you’re certain of the date, because out of the woodwork, they come, “Can you do a different day? That’s the ending of our fiscal year, so it doesn’t work out for me.” Or, “My brother died that day back in 1979 by a drunk driver; it’s not a good day.” Okay, so that last one was spoken by a relative; there might be some merit there.

We settled on the week before, the last week in September, but something felt off. September is not really the most exciting month of the year. In fact, it’s my least favorite. It’s a reminder that summer is over, but Fall is coming! And yet, there’s still something depressing about it.

Finally, we said, “Let’s get married sooner.” We didn’t want a summer wedding, or an early spring wedding; too many bugs and too much heat, we concurred. We then agreed May 19 would be best, because that is only 2 days after our anniversary when we first started dating. How perfect.

I have to say, it’s a fascinating conversation to start when you tell someone you’re engaged and they have to one-up you by comparing their own wedding bliss, or maybe a daughter or son who might be getting married soon.

“When’s your big day?” they’ll ask. After they hear it’s less than 6 months away, they stand baffled, thinking how little time there is to prepare. Yes, it’s possible to get married in less than 6 months, and even more possible less than 3 months; however, if you really want this, and you want that… it’s probably better that you give yourself a little bit more time. In this day and age, wedding venues, DJs, photographers, etc., all book up fast around popular wedding dates. We were quick to get what we wanted as soon as we knew the date, so we have our venue, our DJ and our photographer. Now we’re just waiting on a reasonable caterer.

Other than that, everything’s cool.