Samara’s eloping

Things with Samara have not been going well lately. SHe is regressing in beahvior. SHe has been having meltdown, non-compliance, and the such. She has even been hitting me and kicking me again during meltdowns. Now that she is 6 it is much harder to deal with a 50 pound child. 

Yesterday, was the final straw I suppose. 

She eloped from the classroom. She hid from the school, and it took a while before they found her. 

Deep breath. 

The best thing about it? I was not notified for four hours. 

It was her therapist who told me, I should have been called. 

I am upset. The email the teacher sent me stated she was getting angry so the teacher just gave up and told her to get ready to leave. Well Samara left. 

I know there is an issue with another little boy eloping as well in her class so some of the behavior is modeled, and some of it is regression. The other little boy gets attetion.

Samara was devistated last night because her classmates were working on their mother’s day presents, and she wanted to make sure mine was done too. She had to go to therapy, and wanted me to have my present. I told her to tell her teacher to send it to the center with her, the therapists can always help her finish anything. I emailed the teacher and told her to send it. 

I meet with her teacher today to discuss this. I know Samara has been difficult, but giving up and allowing her to leave is not the answer either. I need to know she is safe at school. If she is not safe, there will be drastic changes. 

I am disappointed in the school and their handling and communication of what happened. 

I took Samara on a walk last night to discuss with her what has been happeneing and she told me. It is first grade. They are gearing up hardcore for the change and she tells me it freaks her out. She can’t handle it and she has to leave. I tried reassuring her she is staying home with me next year, and that she will be fine. We won’t even call it a grade. Not at all. We will simply call it Samara school. If the labels freak her out simply remove the labels. The problem is with as much as I can reassure her at home, the school’s preperations are confusing and overwhelming. She doesn’t know that the authorities there don’t have the final stay. Ahh, one unfourtunate consequence of public education. Schools have too much implied power. 

Okay, thetr is nothing more I can do now… I just have to wait until tonight. 

Other than that, the boys are doing well. Sirris is almost out of his 0-3 month clothes, he is 2 months old today. I think he is long. So long. Sabastian is simply the most beautiful child ever, and he says Sirris, it is the most adorable thing.

It’s mother’s day weekend, I have 2 birthday parties Saturday, and then Sunday morning I get homemade donuts! I wait all year for them. So amazing!