WEDDING NOTES 2

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Hey, if he is the only one in the world who doesn’t agree with this marraige, then so be it. I think that God has a better sense of humor than that and wants us to be happy and do what is right. I just don’t think this can be a sin if it makes you so happy. So forget what he says and know that God is on your side. Otherwise, he wouldn’t let you be so happy!

i’m so sorry you’re hurting. tons of hugs,

There is a wet blanket in every crowd. Don’t let him spoil your plans.

{{{HUGS}}}

Oh, there is so much I could say to this, but I won’t because you are hurting enough. This man has no right to impose his own guilt and demons on you and BB. The only thing he got right is that this is between you and God and you and BB know in your hearts that this is what is destined for the two of you. Do not let him have the power to hurt you in this way. The Alderbrook Inn is beautiful.

Sigh. Why do people, especially Christians, act like idiots sometimes. Being Christian myself seeing things like this make me want to beat head against the wall intil I pass out. Don’t let this guy get you down.

No disrespect meant towards your father’s brother, but I disagree completely. What a mean-spirited letter! Hugs,

Everyone is entitled to their beliefs and the practice of them. When he wrote that he probably believed he was taking care of you in a way that was important to him. Sometimes, however, it is best just to let others live their own lives in their way, and according to their own beliefs. All the best,

I know this hurts. It is a pity that not everyone is happy with everything that we decide. It is not his wedding and I hope you still invite him. It takes a bigger person to realize that in his not so gentle way he was trying to help. This might be the way he shows his love. I am not saying it is right nor am I saying it doesn’t hurt. It is your wedding and don’t let him spoil it. ((hugs))

Those are HIS beliefs and not your own. This would matter if HE were getting marries but he’s not. YOU are so it’s your own beliefs that matter here. You are going to enter into a marriage with the person you love. That’s what matters. M.

How exciting!!

Weird of him to do that. There’s always so much drama surrounding weddings.. I hope it turns out for the best for you.

Dear Uncle: One cannot unscramble a scrambled egg anymore than one can undivorce a divorced couple. One cannot bring back the dead if one has murdered but if repented, paid the price, and forgiven by God, is he forever labeled a murderer? If one has an affair outside of marriage, has repented, been forgiven, paid the price, and has changed his life, is he still just considered an adulterer? My

dear man, you have the words of Jesus confused. Did He condemn the women at the well who had 5 husbands and the one she was living with was not even married to her? No…Jesus did not. He loved her. He told her Who He was. He invited her to live a different life and she ran and told the town’s people: “Come and see a man who has told me everything I’ve ever done! Could this be the Messiah?”

No bucket full of tears needed over this Swirly Girl-friend. You and BB get married. You make it work before God and company. And it will be honored. Remember, the past cannot be undone. What’s done is done. Scrambled eggs cannot be made whole again. So you and BB represent a new batch of fresh eggs, ready to be tried by boiling waters to perfection. Leave the bucket for your uncle. He may find it

handy when hiding his face in shame one day. I promise you that your priestly uncle, while he may not be married (Catholic?), has many a scrambled egg in his own past. Christ will forgive those too but only when he learns to forgive others and look at his own actions; not the actions of others to judge. This is God’s Word as spoken by God in the Bible. Not man’s catechism or religious orders.

Sounds like the wedding is going to be a beautiful one! Summer…evening…traditional Native American Indian…so where’s my invitation??? LOL

Wow, that’s harsh. I’m sorry that he felt the need to be that way about it. Just think of how beautiful your outdoor Native American wedding is going to be, though, Love. That should make you smile.

leave it to the same church that Annuled the marriage of Ted Kennedy to come up with such trash. Tell him you are following in the Kennedy family footsteps, just without paying for the blessing.

I have been told I interpret this wrong, but it says that “until death do us part”. It does not say the death of a partner, it says death. There is a “death” of a marriage. And some churches grant an annullment which means that the people were living in “sin”???? Give me a break!! God knows what is in your heart and I’ve also been told that God forgives and lets you go forward.

This is so sad to read. Some people are so miserable in their own lives that they have to do whatever they can to try to bring others down. But your uncle is not going to bring you down. You’ve found the love of your life and you two will go forward to a new life together. What’s past is past and your uncle’s beliefs are not yours. He doesn’t have to attend your wedding if it offends him so.

And I love the idea of eagles circling in the air. It sounds like a beautiful setting for a new beginning.

You know, I use to work for the Catholic church even was a cloistered nun for 8 years – but the self-rightousness of theology really pisses me off sometimes (‘scuse my English). I’m sorry you have to go through this. May you have the wedding of your dreams & may it be filled with joy, peace & love.

Remember, live for you and not for your uncle. Every one has their own opinions but when it comes down to it, this is YOUR (Bb and yours) special day and NO ONE elses. They can agree, disagee, or agree to disagree but this is where you need to be selfish and make the day perfect for you. I’m sure he meant well, and you know how elders can be, so just try to understand that.

Sweetie, you have so many friends supporting you here. You love BB and he loves you. I like what Ya-Ya said. Just know that God is with you, where there is love, there is God. May you find peace and forgivness in realizing that some people can never be swayed from their thougts and that they have no power over YOU. You have God’s love, you have BBs love, and you have ours. Peace dear one.

I agree with some noters (notably ahem and ya-ya), and disagree with others. Basically, I would say that if you and BB are not practicing Catholics, and if BB’s first marriage wasn’t in a Catholic church, adn you two aren’t being married in a Cathlic church (in which cases I doubt that they’d recognize them anyhow), then it doesn’t matter.

I don’t think that he was being mean-sprited or anything like that, I do think that he was trying to be true to, and honest about, his beliefs, but it doesn’t have to affect you and yours. Be happy.

I don’t thin k it is any of your Uncle’s business… He should be happy for you…How come it is always those that claim to be most religious that act the least religiuosly???

Now I’m all outraged. I think your previous noter, Mysticwolf (sp?) said it best. But PLEASE don’t listen to your uncle. Please do what will make you happiest–celebrate the love between the two of you in a way that feels best to you. Hugs to you–

i’m so sorry you’re uncle has hurt you this way. family fallouts sadden me greatly. please try not to let it bother you. i read your latest entry about your uncle and went to see what the matter is/was. ps. thank you so much for looking me up again. i’ve missed you all.