Need Advice Por Favor

I have this friend and she was raped. She didn’t tell anyone (besides me, but that was just like recently) because she felt ashamed and guilty and like somehow it was her fault or like she had caused it or let it happen and stuff like that. She also didn’t want it to be real and she felt that by saying it, that meant it was real and it did happen. Plus she also knew the guy for a really long time and trusted him. I guess she was in denial for awhile that it ever happened because of that reason right there. Kind of confused me, but I guess I’m not the one that got raped. Anyways so like she found out that she’s 2 1/2 months pregnant now and she doesn’t know what to do. She already is going to have a hard time telling her parents, especially since she’s still 17 and in high school. I think she should still go to the police or at least talk to a counselor or something, but I don’t know how to get her to or if I should even bother with trying to get her to. I guess I just don’t want her to do anything stupid. She’s already feeling really bad since she’s kept that to herself for the past 2 1/2 months and because she’s scared of what her parents will think and her priest and people at school and all that. I just don’t know what I need to do to help her. Or if I should just stay out of it. I know it’s not really my business, but she’s my friend and I don’t want to see her suffer like that or hurting as much as she is. It just breaks my heart.  

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March 18, 2007

I think she really needs to get some help from counselors or what not if nothing else. Now, how to get her that help is another issue. Ideally you could help her get there through talking or what not. But if she refuses… I don’t know if I know what the right answer would be… But I do think she really needs to get it out and deal with it… She’s obviously going to have to do something..

She’s at school and she s under 17. She could see the counsellor there for free who has an obligation to make sure that she reports it so it would go directly to the poilce. The counsellor would help her tell the stroy and break it toher parents and keep her safe. You did the rtight thing y giving her a shoulder to cry on, but she’ll do the right thing by telling them. Trust me…