Big brothers annoy you no matter how old you get!

So my brother is driving me mad. He is just so clueless. About 18mths ago he got made redundant. He lived with my sister at the time and after struggling to find a job he ran out of money. After a while longer she got fed up of ‘carrying’ him and asked him to move out. I wrote about it at the time. I was annoyed with her because he had just secured a job and it put him in a difficult position. He rented a flat but had to pay the deposit and stuff with his credit card. He had a part time job in a bank (20 hrs a week) which wasn’t enough to survive on really. He has been paying his minimum credit card payments but the interest is a lot and he is getting nowhere fast. He kept borrowing money from my dad etc. Just generally really struggling. Well a few months ago he approached my parents and asked if he could move in with them for 6 months to get some of his finances under control. They were reluctant and I don’t blame them….

1. They are 73 and 72.

2. 3 years ago they moved to a 2 bed bungalow which was plenty big enough for them but not really for another adult as well.

3. They enjoy having my children over to sleep on occasion which can no longer happen if David is in the spare room.

4. If my sister in London wants to visit she can’t stay with them.

Well they decided that despite their reservations he is their son and they need to give him the 6 mths and help him turn things around. He moved in a couple of weeks ago. Well last week my mum called me. She was upset. David had walked out of his job!!! Apparently he was meant to go for a disciplinary because he had made a couple of mistakes. This was the second time and they more or less told him it would be better if he resigned…so he did. ARGH!!! Frustration! Maybe it is better  – I honestly don’t know  but I want to shake him!!!! So now he has zero income!!!

Of course this is very stressful to my parents. David can not understand why they are stressed by it. I was quite blunt with him the other day. He doesn’t want to go on a debt management plan because he feels it is "dishonourable". I said "Is it more dishonourable than burdening your aging parents with your problems?" He said he wasn’t burdening them with anything and that there is nothing wrong with living with your parents. He is a 44 yr old man!!!! My mum told him she was worried and finding it hard to sleep at night. His response was "Well you have no reason to be worried. I can’t do anything about you worrying" Argh his attitude drives me mad.

Well today he got a tax rebate he has been waiting for for months and he got his flat deposit back so that added up to over £2000 which is a small reprieve. I don’t know. He is looking for another job but he is over 20 stone which doesn’t come across well in interviews and also limits what he can do. He worked in my job a year ago and lasted 1 night!!! He said "after that night working in your place my whole body ached!!!!!!" Welcome to the real bleeping world!!!!!

Most of his life he has lived in people’s spare rooms and paid a nominal rent with no worries of bills. He has no idea of how to take responsibility for himself. I would expect this type of thing from a 19yr old but he is 44!!!!! He needs a rocket up his ass!

Well I sincerely hope he manges to get a full time job and soon! I am sick of him putting this pressure on my parents at this time in their life. They should be relaxing and enjoying their retirement.

Anyway that is my moan over. I worked last Fri as overtime and am doing this Friday as well. Chris’ mum is taking the kids away for the weekend (Fri and Sat nights) so we have all the time to ourselves. I am working both nights booooo – but needs must. We are skint at the moment and no one is bailing us out while we sit on our backsides and nor would I want them to.

I have 2 weeks off at the end of August though which will be nice. I want to get away for a few days and take my mum with me. Will have to look at finances and see if there are any last minute offers out there.

I rejoined Slimming World 2 weeks ago. I have just put on so much weight recently. It is ridiculous. I lost  2.5lbs my first week and another 2.5lbs my second week – so 5lbs so far. It is a good start but really just a drop in the ocean. I am determined this time. I am sick of being fat!!

That is it really for now.