So done with my SIL ***EDIT***

From: Stacey
Sent: April 29, 2009 1:54 PM
To: michelles@XXXXX
Subject: FW: May 7th revised poster

 

 

Hi – how are you? Settling back into routines now that Spring Break is done? Things are busy here – at work and at home. I’ve gotten back in to see a therapist again – so there’s lots of homework with that (CBT/thought records etc…) and I enrolled at Thompson Rivers University recently to get my BComm. in Leadership through open learning. So lots to keep me out of trouble! (finally got a diagnosis too for my depression…turns out it’s not actually "depression"… Dysthymic Disorder…big sigh of relief to finally know what’s been going on with me all these years!!)
 
I saw this attached poster and saw that there is a session in Medicine Hat and it’s open to the public. Thought you might be interested given Cassidy’s interest in Healthy Eating at school. Just a thought 🙂
 
Please tell Hayden that Auntie & Uncle are feeling terrible that his birthday present hasn’t been mailed yet. I can’t find a box that fits it to mail it in (and as sad as this is…I haven’t had the money to send it yet…yah pathetic I know). Pay day is Friday and I’m going to hit up Starbucks or McDonalds for a box tomorrow night…it will be sent this weekend. (plus the cheque for part of the $$$ I owe Scott).
 
Hope you’re all keeping well in light of this panic the media has caused over Swine Flu. (my boss just got back from Mexico Sunday – she didn;t even know about it until she got back to Canada).
 
xoxoxo
 – Stacey

From: Stacey
Sent: May 1, 2009 9:33 AM
To: michelles@XXXXX
Subject: So….

 

 

I was thinking last night about the e-mail I sent you earlier this week and since I haven’t heard back I got kind of paranoid. I really don’t know where I stand with you & Scott these days, but I thought I should clarify a few things that might have been misunderstood. I mentioned being broke in my last e-mail and in the same breath talked about courses I’m taking and other stuff. And on the heels of just being in Kamloops. Rob & I ARE really struggling with money and I don’t want you to think that I’ve blown off Hayden or the money I owe Scott. So here are the facts:
Flight to Kamloops: Booked on RBC points accumulated with paying for the wedding on our Visa
Therapist: Covered by Healthcare
Degree Program: My boss is paying up front for me for each course and I submit to my benefits and pay her back
Ok…Im good now that I got that off my chest.
 – Stacey

From: Michelle
Sent: May 1, 2009 11:21 AM
To: Stacey
Subject: RE: So….

 

Hi Stacey,

 

I have not intentionally not replied. I have been out of the office most of this week. There is no misunderstanding regarding money. I have not taken your last email to mean anything more than what it was. I did tell Scott that in my opinion loaning money to family is often problematic and your email below is an example of why.

 

As for where we stand, I really feel that the issues with the relationship with you and your brother and mother are  no longer something I can cope with. I wish things could be different but they are what the are. I am very upset with all that has transpired and really do not understand the decision to come to Medicine Hat for one night to attend Cassidy’s Confirmation. It is at 2 pm on Sunday so if the idea is to avoid me, then an overnight is not even necessary.

 

I need to stay positive and focus on what I can control. Like most people, I too am under tremendous stress and could focus on all the issues in my life that bring sadness and despair. I choose not to. I have  wonderful children and a husband who I love who loves me no matter what. I have my health and a nice home. Many people will never have what I have – I count my blessings every day.

 

I feel uncomfortable with emailing and would prefer to talk. I am at home with the kids today if you would like to call.

 

Michelle

 

I can’t even begin to put into words what this e-mail correspondence has unleashed. My sister-in-law is a cunt and I’d like to shove her blessed little life right down her throat until she suffocates.  A husband who lovers her no matter what…more like a husband who has no balls and is terrified of you because you are effing crazy. A husband who has zero respect or concern for his own moth

er…yah…he’s a gem. These two were made for each other I’m sure.

I couldn’t keep it bottled up anymore. I’m so sick and tired of this fight and what it’s doing to my mom. I need my mom to be happy and healthy and since my SIL’s attack on her 2 years ago she’s been a different person. I’m not putting up with it anymore. I think I may have become an only child over the weekend. And while I could care less at this point if I ever have to see either of them again…I do care that my relationship mith my niece will suffer. Whatever relationship there is anyway…I’m sure she’s picked up on the "friction" and considering her mom treats her like a middle aged friend rather than an 11 year old daughter, I’m sure her head has been filled with garbage. My sister-in-law should have her credentials as a social worker removed after the privacy she breached in a HUGE way. My private conversations with her, when I thought she was there to help. No…she told it to my mom. It was about my mom. She’s a liar. She lies and tells stories to make herself look better or feel better…I don’t know but it must fill some need of hers.

I don’t know what’s going to happen. I have to talk to my mom tonight about all of this again. At least this time around I won’t be hysterical.

My motto for this week is "thank God you can pick your friends, because there’s no say in who your family is." and oh yeah…karma’s a bitch…watch out.

***EDIT***
I guess I forgot to write that I did call her as she requested. 10 minutes after getting the e-mail…she didn’t pick up the phone.