So THIS is why I had kids…
I always figured I had kids cause that’s just what women “do”. They grow up, get married, and have kids. I won’t go into why I held that overly traditional picture of the way life is “supposed” to be. It seems odd since I come from a set of parents who did very little in a traditional manner. Very little. Almost nothing. The word ‘traditional’ was suspect in our family… getting the picture? But I digress.
What I have discovered is that I had kids to teach me the lessons that I was just too damn dense to get on my own.
I expected this from my son. He was, after all, a boy child. All male. Oozing testosterone and everything. Totally foreign. Under his insistent tutelage I learned the Little League rulebook from cover to cover and became a Fifa certified soccer referee. I learned about hunting and fishing… although I still don’t understand the “sport” in either one of those passtimes. I saw dating from the ‘dark’ side (… for the uninitiated, that would be the male perspective). I learned that being “successful” as a parent is sometimes more painful for me than being a “failure”. I learned about heros and friendship and fairness and fashion. Most of all I learned about me.
Then along came my daughter. This should be easier, I Naïvely thought. My second child… a girl… so where’s the problem? Hah!
Chickie was a challenge from her first breath. I swear the universe tricked me into having 2 children by giving me my son first. If Chickie had come first, there would NEVER have been a second child. NEVER! I love her with all my heart and soul… and I am counting the days until she graduates from high school and goes out on her own.
But my lessons are not done yet. They say that fathers are very protective of their daughters. I can see that. My dad is STILL that way with me even after two marriages, two kids, and a raft of other ‘stuff’. But I honestly don’t know how anyone could be more protective than I am at times.
Chickie, my sis and I went to the pier, which has been built up with cute shops, restaurants and such. We were bored and needed some entertainment. We’d wandered the shops and eaten and were now aimlessly walking around while trying to decide what to do next. Chickie was walking a little ahead of sis and I. A man came around the corner eating a bowl of ice cream. A MAN – full grown – no kid. I watched his eyes travel up and down every inch of Chickie… long hair, long legs, green eyes, well endowed chest, fashionable clothes. My blood began to boil instantly. There was, I’m sure, steam coming from my ears as he licked his lips appreciatively and took a step toward her. “OH NO YOU DON’T BUSTER!” That’s what went through my mind. Just as the last !!! cleared my brain, the lech got a surprised look on his face and staggered back two steps. Then he looked over at me, turned around and skee-daddled!
Mind you, I hadn’t taken a step in his direction – yet. I was still sizing up the best place to hit him. He wasn’t an especially big man and I didn’t want to permanently cripple him… So I look over at Sis and she is laughing hysterically. What’s up with that? Still indignant I spluttered at Sis – “Did you see that…????” She snorked and nodded. Then she explained the surprised look on the lech’s face. “You just threw your energy out there and knocked that guy for a loop!”
Oh my God! Did I do that? I was horrified. Then… I was tickled pink. Hehe… mess with MY daughter will you? Hah! I’ll smack you down like the dog you are and never even lay a hand on you! Come on back – we’ll try it again! Super-Mom is on the job!!!!!!!! Who knew? Chickie artlessly kept walking – oblivious to it all. She has no clue that she is an attractive girl.
Chickie is adapting reluctantly to her new school. Yesterday the entire football team walked her halfway home. Things like this make it easier for a girl to adapt – and hell on a Mom. She has made friends with a boy that is much picked on. (“Mom – what’s wrong with those stupid kids – haven’t they ever heard of Columbine”?) Her newest friend is 6 months pregnant. Last night we went to the store to buy the required gym clothes for a girl in her class who doesn’t have the money to get them. Chickie pulled the gym teacher aside and arranged to get them for the girl. Chickie, that unconsciously pretty girl with a street-tough, hard-as-nails exterior has a heart as big as all outdoors.
Like I said – my lessons aren’t over. I’m still learning about Chickie – and about me. What did I ever do to deserve such wonderful lessons from two such amazing people?
That question is too big for me to wrap my arms around right now – so I think I’ll go practice throwing my energy some more. If we could harness Mommie power, nothing on earth could stop us!!!!!!!!
Love this entry… wish I could do that with “uncle” power …;-)
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That’s so fabulous, so glad you are realizing the potential of your power, and that you don’t even have to wave a finger let alone strike with physcial the dorks of the world. 🙂 GOOD on you. So can chickee make make and cheese yet? NOt that a beautiful girl need cook that, but she had her lesson, easy mac, was wondering if she’s up to the big stuff yet. 🙂 FROG SLIPPERS?
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So what makes you think your stoppable now? {:o)
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ok, i wont say that Chickie does sound cute. hehe. anyway, have fun!
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SuperMom… Great!! (WOuld you teach me this art with the energy throwing??) Your daughter sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders… you done good.. another SuperMom power… 🙂
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For you as you state it “beautiful” has the footbal team walking her home daughter…I would say that is one teenage girl I would be proud of Not many girls her age would give a rats tail about a girl that couldn’t afford gym clothes ….SW honey you have Done more then something right…..Your an awesome mom keep it up and maybe they will be awesome parents also….
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She wouldn’t be anything like her mum, now, would she, dearest? With a big hug…T the unrepentently U
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LOL, I do the same thing with Ash! She is so oblivious to how beautiful she really is and she is always catching the eye of the college age and older guys, Mom just sits there and keeps an eye on everything! LOL 🙂
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I had sort of a kind of a glimmer of a hint that your family of origin wasn’t very traditional when you told me about your dad shootin’ up the TV…..LOL!!! Awwwwww, Chickie is just the coolest “little” (doncha wish she’d stay little!) girl on earth. What a sweetie! Gee, I wonder if it’s because she has a great mom! Keep practicing those Death Rays; something tells me you’re gonna need ’em
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I don’t have any kids, but I watched my best friend raise three, mostly alone. I stand in awe of mothers and their *powers*!
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Hey supermom, well done. And kudos for raising such a wonderful daughter. She must get her supermom-in-training skills from you.
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Ah do like those many exclamation marks at the end!!!!!!!!! I am a big fan of same myself. Muchas gracias for your notes!!!!!! thankyou!!!!!! O Mum of Chickie!!!!!! Muriel sends her regards and is slowly drinking the health of all 20,000 diarists or so. She does not look well….Alex
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Muriel just told me that true women do not have kids..they drink instead. Well I do not know about this… Alex
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The way Chickie reacted to her friend and the gym stuff, sounds like you didn’t do a bad job of teaching her either, honey! And as for the enrgy thing….damn, I may just stay on THIS side of the water! LOL Hugz
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Amen, and amen. Great story! :)))
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Laughing at Harley. So *that’s* what happened to his hair. Bad Sunshine! Bad wolf. With quiet snorking…
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beautiful entry 🙂 been there oh yes . my 4’9″ beauty used to walk up to them and slug them !!!!! then left as her stunned date tried to handle things 🙂 you never stop learning with them and that’s the beauty of it 😉
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Hey,hey…and yes,I totally MEANT to burst in song…only I’ll change a few of the words so we can sing to each other w/o scaring too many people.**ROFLMAO**What a wonderful entry!My son and daughter have been the same “teachers” to me as well.And “Mommy Power”…just precious!*Grinds*Hey, we’ll see if you ever view “canned” goods the same again once you’ve tasted my pesto!Muwahahahaha!**Giggles**
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….**GRINS**…not grinds…definitely not that.Sheez, it’s a good thing you read typo! I think Chickee sounds pretty darn neat and I wouldn’t be amazed at all by that, given who her mom is.**Grins**I mean, how many of us colorful,gotta sing to girls, can there be out there?!! I’m glad things are going well for her, high school changes can be traumatic for so many kids.Gotten any zz’s lately?
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chuckles hard at this entry and says if I was a man…I would have run too…and I hate the fact that men treat other mens daughters so disrespectfully…and would not allow their own to be treated in like manner…and i won’t get started on this as I would loose control… my thought for the day Women don’t make fools of men – most of them are the do-it-yourself types huggles you warm
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Smiling.
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Of course Chickie wouldn’t have such a big heart if her mom didn’t. I love the mommie power, that was fantastic!!
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Oh now this is rich. I just read your note and instead of coming over here to your diary, I left you a note on mine!****strolls away humming…hey, hey……****
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R one of YN: I can’t see Torin losing his lusty streak any time soon. Can you? With a grin…
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Hey, you’re online when I’m online. With wildly batting eyelashes…
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moooo indeed. Perhaps halloween time we’ll be headed south, depends if the cessna is fixed by then. The flying club has to fix the elevators (part in wings not standard ‘lift’ term used in america.) My joke as of late is they have elevators and not potties, stupid cessna’s. 🙂 *grin*
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As a mother of an attractive son and beautacious daughter, I read every line with great interest!! Can we be ever so lucky? Sometimes I thought I’d had two too many children, but now, even when their problems get larger, I have such pride. These were of our making!….okay…with a little help! But I take most of the credit. His other three kids have ruined lives!
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Sunshine is just full of mischief. Have you seen what she did to Torin in my tale? *snorking*
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Excellent use of energy! And from the sound of it, excellent parenting too! ~:) ArtImp, nsi
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Don’t you remember doing that Chickie male mesmeizing stuff when you were a teen queen yourself?
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daughters are a trip, aren’t they? LOL~ and trust me, it continues way into their 20s! 🙂 isn’t that encouraging? lol~
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