A little bit of this and that

Hubby and I went and saw Transformers 3 last night.  Great movie!  I loved the first two, even though I thought the second one dragged on just a bit too long, and the third one did not disappoint.  Action packed with lots of humorous moments thrown in.  I didn’t know that Patrick Dempsey (you know, McDreamy from Grey’s Anatomy) was in the third one.  Let me tell you, he played a real ass…lol.  I looked at my husband during the movie and said "I don’t think I like McDreamy anymore" and he just started laughing.  I don’t know what it is with my husband, but he always wants to leave so damn early to get to the theater whenever we go to the movies, and last night was no exception.  We got there 35 minutes before the movie started, got our tickets and popcorn (hubby got a large, I got a small), and went and sat in the theater to wait for the movie to start.  You’re probably think okay, so what’s the big deal?  Well the big deal is that when we get there so early I devour all my popcorn before the movie even starts!  By the time the movie started, not only was mine gone, but I’d also eaten most of hubby’s…lol.  Man, did my stomach hurt for the rest of the night…ugh.  And because I’d also sucked down a large diet coke, by the time the movie ended I was about to pee in my pants.  Talk about making a mad dash to the bathroom!

So at the end of May my friend Jen and I went to San Francisco for a week.  I have to tell you, I have NEVER been so glad to have a vacation over with and to get home!  The first four days weren’t too bad.  San Francisco was beautiful and sunny, although very windy and chilly.  We did lots of walking and sighseeing and I took TONS of pictures.  Fisherman’s wharf was awesome.  The best part was Alcatraz.  We did the night tour and it was phenomenal!!!  There were three guys from the Netherlands on the same tour as us and they were dressed like prisoners…striped jumpsuits and all.  They were hilarious!  At one point one of them asked me to take a pic of the three of them, which I gladly did, and afterwards I asked if I could get a picture with them and they were very happy to oblige.  They all put their arms around me and hugged me close…lol.  They were so cool!  I’ll post that pic one of these days after I download them all from my SD card.  Yeah, I still haven’t done that yet.  But one of the things that pissed me off about the trip was that Jen, a control freak if I ever saw one, had our days planned down to the minute.  I’m talking she had a binder made up and everything and had tabs in it for each day and what we were doing every minute of every day.  At first I thought, okay whatever makes her happy, no biggie.  But things got tense when I told her I wanted to ride the cable cars and she informed me that it wasn’t on the schedule.  Um, excuse me?  When I go on vacation I like to take each day as it comes and just do what I wanna do.  Nope, not with Jen.  If it wasn’t on the schedule, we weren’t gonna do it.  The last three days of the trip were a nightmare.  We traveled from San Fran to Redding, which is north, to spend the last three days with her parents.  Big HUGE mistake on my part.  I don’t like her mother.  I never have.  She’s a hateful old woman who is also very racist and just downright mean.  She got in all kinds of digs at me while we were there, and I didn’t appreciate it one bit.  Jen, of course, said nothing in my defense, and the longer we were with her parents, the more I saw a side of Jen that I don’t care for.  The icing on the cake came on the second night we were with her parents.  I had brought my laptop on the trip, but didn’t open it until that night.  Jen, on the other hand, had used it almost every night to upload the pictures she had taken to her Facebook account.  Well, on the night I finally used my computer, when I opened it up I saw that she had left her Facebook account open, right on a page of message exchanges between she and her friend Melissa, who also lives in Cali.  Jen had some great things to say about me…."she has a good heart, but a lot of annoying habits" and "I can deal with her better now that she lives further away" and "since she’s (she being me) pretty much my only friend out here, I guess I’m stuck with her."  Talk about being stunned.  I couldn’t believe what I was reading.  Should I have automatically shut her page down when I opened the computer?  Probably.  But at first I didn’t even realize it was her page.  I was so hurt, you have no idea.  Stuck with me?  I didn’t say anything to her about it at first.  I didn’t want a scene at her parents house.  But when we landed on Wednesday night, even though it was 10 p.m. by the time we got to her house, which is 11 Michigan time, instead of spending the night, like I had planned on doing, I threw my shit in my car and left.  I got home at almost 5 in the morning.

The next day at work I let her have it via email.  I told her what I had read and told her I know I have some annoying habits but what, you think you don’t?  I also told her she was far from stuck with me, and that the only thing she WAS stuck with was her shitty attitude and control freak ways.  She tried to deflect things at one point by saying that obviously she couldn’t trust me to read stuff that wasn’t for me to read and I told her that if laying the blame on me made her feel better then to go right ahead.  She backed up and when it was all said and done she was in tears and apologizing all over the place.  So I had a choice to make…..forgive her and keep the friendship, or forgive her but say adios.  I chose to forgive her and keep the friendship.  Hubby and I are really close to Jen and her hubby….the four of us have so much fun together.  I didn’t want to lose that….I didn’t want our husbands’ friendship to be a casualty of Jen and I falling out.  So I told her we were going to let this go and never talk about it again, but that if it ever happened again, the friendship was over…for good.  She kept apologizing and I told her to stop, that it was over and we were just gonna move on.  So things are okay again.  I don’t exxactly trust her like I used to, but I’m sure in time that will change.  But I will tell you this….I will NEVER ever again take a solo trip with her….NEVER!  And I will never again spend time with her parents.  I pray for them and I love them because they’re God’s children, but I don’t have to like them or spend time with them, and I don’t and I won’t. 

So my job is going okay.  For a while there things were bad…I almost quit.  Fred, my boss, can be a real asshole, and for a while I didn’t think I could handle it.  I was nervous and tense and weepy as

hell.  I called my shrink and told him how I was feeling and he upped the dose of my happy pill.  He said that working again was a big change in my life since I hadn’t worked in almost two years and that it was perfectly understandable that that could cause extra anxiety.  So I started taking the extra dose and things are better now.  I’m learning to just walk away when Fred’s being a jerk and laugh it off.  I really didn’t want to quit….I hate being a quitter because it makes me feel like a failure.  I know that’s not true, but that’s how I feel. 

My son’s ship is on deployment right now and has been for two months.  He’s seeing so many cool places.  He said the sushi in Japan was amazing and that they were treated like royalty there.  Right now they’re in Russia.  I asked him to bring me a doll from Russia.  He’s been able to send me emails from the ship’s computer and about a week ago we were able to have a brief IM conversation on Facebook.  It was so great to be able to chat with him!!  He actually called hubby’s cell phone at 6 a.m. last weekend, but about 30 seconds after hubby handed the phone to me the phone died.  I was so bummed!  When I email him again I’m gonna tell him that if he gets the chance to call again to call the house phone and I’m gonna make sure it’s on the nightstand every night. 

So anyway, that’s about all that’s going on in my life.  Today’s the 4th of July….I hope you all have a GREAT day!  Be safe and have fun!