The Friend Zone

This may be a case of guys actually having two different friend zones: Girls they are interested in, and girls who really are just friends. The trouble is that guys who aren’t creeps are very, very good at not revealing which is which– even to themselves, sometimes.

it’s all about who’s winning and who’s losing. if you’re winning, then you’re awesome. and if you’re losing, you’re boned. if you’re losing, get away fast. if you’re winning, stay as long as possible. it doesn’t hurt to be a king (or princess ;)). the point of the story is that if you’re the one in the hole, you best get yourself out the best way that you can. and if not, bury them deeper!

I’m not a guy, but I think there may be 2 friend zones, for girls, too. Friend zone 1: For the friends you have not and will never be attracted to, no matter how great they are. Friend zone 2: For the friends you were attracted to when you first met, it didn’t go anywhere, but you wouldn’t be opposed to having some sexual fun with, or maybe more. But usually not.

I have had many, many guys tell me that they want to have sex with every girl they know, it’s just a matter of to what degree. One of my male friends is a primo example: he slept with his female best friend one night while drunk (she initiated). He would have NEVER initiated, not was he particularly keen on sleeping with her. NOw he’s sleeping with another friend. He’s totally ambivalent about sleeping with her, but she’s initiating and it’s someone to suck his peen.

Milli Vanilli may have something there. I would think there is a spectrum, rather than set categories (hey, kind of like sexuality!), and the likelihood of making a move depends how far up or down the spectrum it’s gone.

What NotKieran said about them not revealing it to themselves even, and what Peteliske said about a spectrum. I think in the end it’s better to just be out with it. Unsaid things lead to big time regret. It can be bad, true, but I really think it’s worse to leave things untested.

Moving a guy out of the friend zone for carnal pleasures dud nor work out for me. And, he never really made it back to the friend zone. While it takes two to tango, this guy went off the emotional deep-end and forgot the stipulated rules of engagement. I think each person will require a different thought process

*did not (silly typoes)

Step? She could flinch and some guys would take it as being back out of the Friend Zone. Guys are simple creatures. Very rarely does he have a friend he couldn’t see himself sleeping with at least once, even if it’s just curiosity and not pure, unbridled lust.

i will always be willing to have sex with any woman ever. no such thing as a permanent friend zone.

I am always in the friend zone. I don’t get it. Sigh.

Hahaha. There is no such thing as the male friend zone. You think just because males are the same species as you that they have ethics or something. Watch Harry Met Sally and call me in the morning if you still have any questions.

ryn: thanks! and i love my group of friends — they’re adventurous and fun and i love them.

Yea…there is no “Male Friends Zone”. There’s fucked, fucking, and trying to fuck.

RYN: Own secret dating weapon? Uh oh… what have I done…

There are a very small number of women who really enter a guy’s friend zone. I have a few women friends I think of like sisters and the thought of having sex with them is gross. But for the most part, guys a friends with, and friendly with a lot of women who never enter the friend zone. Connie and I didn’t start dating until 5 years into our friendship.

I’ve been in the friend zone before, but I never really tried to break out of it. Then again, I married young so it wasn’t really an issue.

ryn: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jAsVTSZTV0w&feature=player_embedded this one is also hilarious.

Interesting. Sorry I can’t contribute to that discussion as I don’t participate in romantic interactions nor have I ever. 😉 Ryn- Facebook, of course! Haha. DUH. In her defense, she actually did say she was willing to pay but still, that didn’t sway me at all. No amount of money she’d be willing to offer would be worth the embarrassment of screwing up her faux dome!

RYN: BWAHAHAHA! Girl, you said it right there. One would think she would have figured this out by now, yes? I think her biological clock is ticking but he’s still just a chick-a-dee. Well, they’re happy for the most part now and that’s the ride they’re on. Good for them. I’ll support her with her choices but I’ll also tell her how I feel about her complaints if they are unwarranted…

RYN: Tattoos are sextastic and yes…there is something hot about a guy taking a drag off a cig. I find the expression on a guy’s face is what gets me. Sooo…focused and dertermined…like he’s thinking about what he wants to do to a woman’s body in a seductive manner. Haha! Look where you took me! Glad you liked what I wrote! I love coming across people I can connect with and you’re pretty rad!

Ryn: hey hottie <3 yeah, that’s me, Ms. Suave. Lol

I’m not a guy, but I think Milli Vanilli is on to something.