with the bad, comes the good

While reading one of my most favorite faves, and her encouraging those wives and children to make certain that fathers day is special for the dads, the reality comes back around to me that for the first time in i dont know how long, my fathers day will be missing something.  And I miss my dad every day.

But with the reality of my dad’s passing, shortly after, my mothers husband passed away also.  So my mom has decided that it is okay to go back to her old life of being my parent.  Not in a parenting sort of way, but more now as the person that I knew many years ago.  you could actually think that the roles have been reversed and now I am doing the parenting, but it has always sort of been that way.  I have always been very independent and chose to accomplish most of my lifes journeys on my own.  Mom has now discovered that she can do things the way she wants to and it really is okay.

So for now I will rejoice in the good and find a way to pay tribute to my dad in a way that would make him happy.  My niece called to ask if I would help her with her FFA project and start to halter break her calf to show at the fair.  Dad always helped me with mine and her dad is busy trying to keep the rest of the farm chores going so I will again step up and be the cow person that I enjoy being.  It brings me back to who I am and what my dad brought to me in my love for the cows and the farm.  My brother is the crop man, and I am the cow person.  So dad will live on in the land that he loved so much.  And keeping the grandkids grounded to their heritage has always been important to me.

So if your dad is still around and you want to really make his day, and you’ll be thankful that you did some day when they are gone, call him, send an email, or make a visit.  Most gifts are not necessary, it’s the thought that counts.    Happy Fathers day Pop, I love you, and I miss you every day.