coincidence?
it’s weird…
[i would like to preface this by saying i am not complaining…]
it seems to me that every time things go poorly in my personal life, things in my professional life skyrocket! this isn’t the first time it’s happened.
i know they are not related in any way. honestly, how could my personal struggles ever inform or influence my professional goals? as far as i can tell, they don’t.
and strangely the flipside is also true. everytime i make choices to further my personal life, my career suffers. as i said above, this had been happening for some time. years in fact… here’s a couple examples:
– last year i gave up a contract that would have had me moving to Germany, performing roles i should absolutely be singing, as well as introducing me to the European opera world, which is probably where i should be now. i gave it up for a girl, and in doing so lost my first shot at having management and having a career in Europe (in the near future).
– dated a girl that was very jealous when i was on the road. i spent more time assauging her fears than i did working on the operas i was performing. my voice suffered during rehearsals and performances because of this, and have not been able to be hired back at several of those companies.
– i took a gig in CA and instead of returning home immediately afterward, i flew to Germany for a competition, then to Chicago right after for a big audition. in doing so the girl i was dating broke up with me.
maybe they are related… lol
i have regrets in my life, i’m not sure it’s possible not to. but i just find it weird that things line up the way they do.
for instance… there’s a once in a lifetime chance possible for me. everything is being discussed and we’re trying to see if it will work. i also had lunch with an agent yesterday who sees great potential in me and has made it very clear he wants to be my agent. the third thing is i have gotten more offers for work in the last week than i’ve gotten in the last two years.
big things are happening. all while one of the most devistating moments of my life has occurred.
makes me wonder even more if i’m not meant to meet someone.
if maybe the price i pay for this profession… and the sacrifices i make… are two great for any relationship to last.
just things i think.
so yeah. great things happening. woohoo.
I think you just haven’t met the right person who can handle what you do. Those girls should have supported you. You’re so talented, I’m not sure why they wouldn’t.
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I agree with Ego, you have amazing talent and anyone that is willing to sacrifice your lives together for you to be able to express that talent and do what you are doing is the one that you need to be with. I hope the best for you, Noah. You definitely need some good stuff in your life right now. Hope everything works out! *fingers crossed* ~♥~
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have you ever dated another singer? at least they would understand how the job goes!
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Congratulations, I’m glad things are looking up again. The problem isn’t you…Someday the right girl who SUPPORTS you WILL understand and do everything in her power to encourage you to go after your dreams.
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I agree with Ego. If you’ve met the right girl, she will be understanding and encouraging. I’m not sure I agree that it’s not possible to live life without regrets. The only thing I regret in life is not going to see my grandfather one last time before he died. As a result, whenever my grandmother was ill and in the hospital, I always went back to see her. I think it’s important to not give up being who you are for someone else. In the end, that makes no one happy. Be who you are, and if the girl doesn’t like that, she’s not the one for you.
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I don’t think it’s so much that you’re not meant to be with someone but that you haven’t found the right person that can handle what you do. When you find that person everything won’t be so hard. At least I don’t think it will.
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It makes sense that by choosing personal life over major career choices, that the career suffers. Especially after hearing the way you laid it out here! But it’s absolutely awesome that you’re possibly getting some awesome offers now. 🙂 Good luck!!
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Or maaaaaybe, you’re supposed to meet someone inside of your career. (I hope that didn’t sound annoying. I’ve gotten to the point where the only way to look is up.) I hope things continue to skyrocket for you!
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I agree with the first noter – you need someone who will support the career and you. Someday you will find her.
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I can absolutely relate to this. John cheated (again)…3 months later I had more going for me in my career than ever before. In two weeks, I’m about to start my new job with a fabulous company. One door closes, another opens. Keep that in mind.
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I think the takeaway is that it is critical for the person you’re with to be willing to accept your career. Somebody who is willing to move with you, rather than against you. Someone with patience who will be excited to hear about your adventures when you come back from a whirlwind tour of auditions and competitions… and have stories of her own to share from the same time period. She exists.I promise you. But she’s not going to be easy to find.
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She should have been supportive. I’m pretty sure she couldn’t have moved to Germany, but she should have not held you back. She is the one with the problem, I promise you that. As for you and how life’s changes seem to make sure you have a yin and a yang… Anyway, I keep telling my roommate that if a man doesn’t like her, that’s his problem. If a woman doesn’t like you, that’s her problem. People don’t always mesh, but it is, simply, the truth that they didn’t mesh, no more, no less.
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Um, some of that certainly did seem related! It’s the sort of so-called coincidence that is easier to spot in hindsight or from the perspective of being an objective third party, but yes, I think I saw connection there!
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