More on Anal Sex

See,it was a different problem for me. (speaking of which,my dearly beloved Goddess,if you have any advice for it,feel free to chip in.) He slid in,and while it did hurt (and I was stupid enough to tense up,therefore it -really- hurt and made me jump.) I’m such a masochist I liked it anyway. (shame on me ^_-‘) However,he’d start off (and we both were virgins at the time. -Technically- (by the standards my parents consider) we still are.) and slip back out. and we didn’t even use any lube (other than natural female lube).

I did like it tho,I just wish we could’ve kept going easier. Maybe we just need practice?

You know what they say “Practice makes Perfect”

Yes you did do a no- no by tensing up, but that does happen from time to time when it is your first time. Even through you liked it still, you do really need to be careful when it comes to Anal Sex, you don’t want to tear anything, and yes you can tear muscle tissue if you aren’t careful. 

You tensing up could be one reason why he slipped out of you, when you tensed up your muscles you could have pushed him out of you by doing that. (You can do the same thing with your vagina muscles as well) You can ask him about that to find out if that is the reason or not. He should be able to tell if that was why he slipped out or not. 

I don’t know if I ever mentioned this or not, when I have put up anything about Anal Sex, but I am going to say this now, that way I know I have. This may help you out as well, and other people to.

When it comes to anal sex LET the receiver lend you. The receiver should be the one in charge, telling you when to go, how far to go in, and most importantly when you should stop! When ever she says stop, you stop then. If she doesn’t feel in control when it comes to this she wont trust you, and that isn’t a good thing when it comes to anal sex. If she doesn’t trust you then it is safe to say no more anal sex for you. Just because she says stop doesn’t mean you will have to stop forever, (But if it does mean to stop and not do anything more, then listen to her) it just means she needs to relax herself enough for you to keep going. Wait till she says it is ok to keep going on. 

Using natural female lube is good to use, If you have enough of it. Sometimes it isn’t good to do it like that because you won’t have enough lube for him to enter your anus and it will cause it to hurt you. It is always good to use extra lube when you are having anal sex. The Lube does help it to enter your anus easier as well as relaxing and not tensing up.

I read somewhere (Can’t remember where right now) that using water based lube (Like most places tell you to use for anal sex) can dry out and make things stickier and messier then they need to be. So instead of using water base to use silicone-based for anal sex, like Eros or Wet Platinum will work. It takes less of the silicone-based lube then it would take of the water base lube. Just take a small amount of the silicone-based lube and you will be lubricated for hours. If you still want to use the water base you can just remember that it will evaporate, but you don’t necessarily need to add more, you can keep a small bottle/glass of water next to the bed (or where ever you are at). Sometimes instead of more lube you can just reactivate the lube with a couple drops of water. You can also keep a spray/misting bottle next to you and use it. The sensation of the mist of water will both help you to keep your lube active it will also feel good to your partner and help them to relax. A nice mist can be quite sexual and adds to the overall effect of taking your partner into consideration.

Also you can stimulate her when having anal sex, this will help her to relax some and get her more in to it as well. She may start to stimulate herself while you are doing it, but just make sure that you are aware of her and you don’t go off in to never-never land. I have read and been told that she will know when you are only focusing on your own pleasure and not at hers.

I can’t for get about this either… Who ever thinks that anal sex is a good alternative for birth control is dead wrong! You can get pregnant from anal sex, (I have another post up about this as well). Semen can leave the rectum and enter the vagina causing her to become pregnant. So make sure she is on the pill or you wear a condom. Wearing a condom is not a bad thing to do anyway, you can still get STD’s from anal sex, so everyone needs to be careful and use a Condom! Also remember to be patience and to listen. Hope this helps, and Take Care!

Sex*Goddess

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