35 Sexy Places to Touch Your Man (Erotic Massage)

I found this and thought I would place it up on here for all you ladys out there to do on your man. So I hope you enjoy this and let me know how it went for you if you do it! 🙂

The way to a man’s heart isn’t through his stomach — or even his pants. It’s through his skin. Once you learn the art of erotic touch — it’s not rocket science — you’ll not only give him the time of his life in bed, you’ll feel closer to him (and he to you) than you have in, oh, years.

If you’d like to take your sex life to new heights, test-run Redbook’s version of a great erotic massage. The entire ritual takes 30 minutes, but in this relatively short time you’ll manage to hit all the erogenous zones you know about — and dozens you don’t. Once you’ve let your fingers do the talking, he’ll be all too eager to reciprocate.

You’ll need some oil (specifics later) and a warm room. You may find it erotic to ask questions as you go ("How does this feel?" "Do you like that?"), but you might also find that silence is molten.

Amazingly, some men may balk at the idea of receiving an erotic massage. If your husband is reluctant to be rubbed and cherished for a half hour, simply say, "Try this for me. No strings attached. Just lie down and enjoy. If you hate it after five minutes, we’ll stop." Men, strangely, often need to be pulled to heaven, kicking and screaming the whole way. If he’s a willing participant, get him to do a few minutes of simple stretching beforehand. Have him prepare his body for a massage the same way he’d get ready for a run: a few lunges to loosen the legs, a few arm twirls for the arms and back. His circulation will improve, and his muscle tension will ease up.

Five minutes

Have him lie face up on the bed; position yourself behind his head. (Since this is only a 30-minute massage, we’re not including the back. But it has a few major erogenous zones there — shoulder blades, lower back, butt — if you have some extra time.)

Spend five minutes on his head and face. Begin by scratching his scalp with your nails. Trace the folds of his ears, the contours of his cheekbones and nose. Next, place your palms on the back of his head, as if you were holding a cantaloupe in cupped hands. Where his neck meets the skull, you’ll find little hollows in the bone. These hollows — acupressure points, actually — are little-known erogenous zones. To give them their due, put your fingertips on them and gradually increase the pressure. Then grasp his head at the jaw and pull it toward you gently, stretching his neck muscles. "By pressing the points and stretching muscles, you’ll increase his circulation and awaken his senses," says acupressure expert Michael Reed Gach, Ph.D.

The Third Eye (center of the forehead, directly between the eyebrows) and the temples (at the sides of the forehead) are also acupressure points. Gently press the Third Eye for 60 seconds; then lightly rotate your fingers on his temples for 30 seconds. This will relieve tension and allow sexual excitement to flow.

Seven minutes

Spend about seven minutes on his upper body. It may seem like a lot of flesh to press in a short time, but you’ll be surprised how quickly you glide. Position yourself at his side. "Use full-hand contact whenever possible," advises Kenneth Ray Stubbs, Ph.D., a Tucson sexologist.

Slide your hands to the shoulder/upper-chest area. The Shoulder Well, an acupressure point in the middle of the tendons on either side of the base of the neck, needs to be kneaded: "This area is a real tension center, but only work on it for a minute," says Gach. "Longer than that and he might get a headache."

Pay attention to the clavicle: The indentations below the collarbone are unsung erogenous zones. Press them gently with your thumb and forefinger. Then move to the center of the breastbone, right over the heart. Feel for a dimple in the bone. This acupressure point is called the Sea of Tranquility — a heavy-duty relaxation trigger. When pressed with your fingers, it’ll ease tension in his chest.

Now it’s time for the oil. An anointing agent will help you slide across larger expanses of skin — his chest, belly, etc. (We recommend two, both from Adam & Eve, 919-644-8100, http://www.adameve.com; not a site for the kids.) For body massage, their Honey Rub smells nice, isn’t too oily, absorbs nicely into the skin and doesn’t stain sheets. For the genital area (more on that later), the basic Lube is clear and clean, and a little goes a long way. Pour some oil on his upper chest, and using what Stubbs calls a connecting stroke (long, fluid, flat-handed rub), move from his breastbone over to the nipples. Nipples — erogenous zones, as we know — are also acupressure points. To heat his blood, pinch the nub (not too hard) and roll the flesh between your thumb and index finger. (Roll, I said. Don’t twist the thing clean off his body.)

Next, drag your hands toward one of his arms. There are two hot spots on the limb, namely the armpit and the crook inside the elbow. You’ll notice that these are both creases: All creases are erogenous zones (the butt crack, the underside of the knee, where the thigh meets the pelvis, where the ear meets the skull). Tickling creases may induce giggles, so stick to what Stubbs calls feather strokes, lightly dragging your fingertips over the skin. Rub each arm, then give him a quick hand/finger massage.

 Three minutes

Make a three-minute sojourn to the hip region. The area that runs from the belly button to the genitalia is an erogenous zone, so don’t neglect it. Start with the navel itself: With well-oiled hands, circle the rim of an innie, or the base camp of an outie (a direct hit might give your husband the willies). Three or four finger-widths down from there, you’ll find a super-important spot acupressurists call the Gate of Origin, right over the bladder. Press it very gently (if he didn’t pee before the massage began, he may need to now) to "open sexual energy," says Gach — to turn him on, in other words.

"You’ll find acupressure points where the legs join the trunk of the body (those thick tendons in the groin). Lean into them gradually with the heel of your hand," advises Gach. "Ask your partner to breathe into your hands; hold this position for a minute or two." His sexual energy is flowing like a raging river by now.

10 minutes

By now you’re about halfway through the massage — a good point to start getting really erotic. "You want your partner to be sufficiently relaxed and aroused before you go near the genital area," says Stubbs. He’ll like just about anything you do to this region. But there are definitely some spots you ought not to miss:

The glans: The head of the penis is keenly sensitive, the male counterpart to a woman’s clitoris.

The coronal ridge: The ridge where the glans curves in to meet the shaft is a band of erotic electricity, particularly at the spot known as…

The frenulum: Found at 12 o’clock on the underside of the shaft, this fingernail-size spot is the center of his universe.

The raphe: This midline seam on the underside of the penis is exquisitely sensitive — a zipper of nerve endings.

The scrotal sac: Gentle touching, please. You’ll know you’re doing it right when the scrotum tightens and contracts as if it were dancing.

The seminal vesicles: On the sides of the scrotal sac, the vesicles feel like little twigs. You can feel them turn rigid under your fingertips.

The male G-spot: To find it, search the muscular band of flesh that runs from the base of the scrotum to the anus for a slight indentation about the size of a dime. Pressing this dimple indirectly stimulates the prostate gland, as well as the inner base of the penis itself.

Here’s one sample itinerary for hitting all the hot spots on your tour. You’ll need lubrication and (forgive me) a few tissues. Start by leaning his penis against his belly. Using a little lubrication, stroke the underside from base to tip for a couple of minutes. Then, with a heavy hand, slide your fingers from the glans along the raphe, down to the scrotum. Think of this as the teasing portion of the genital massage. Lightly drag your fingernails upward, from the base of the scrotum toward the head of the penis. Gently roll his testicles in your palm. Fiddle with the hardened seminal vesicles. This’ll drive him nearly mad.

If you do like to talk, now would be a good time to say something admiring. Then, proceed to the male G-spot. Pressing it gently with the thumb for six seconds at a time enhances a man’s reproductive health and makes him twitchy with desire. To reach it, ask your husband to rest his ankles on your shoulders while you kneel between his legs. Lean forward so that his knees bend toward his chest. Search with your thumb for the dimple described above. If you can’t find the exact spot, place the heel of your hand on the whole area. Apply pressure and send him into orbit.

By this time, he’ll probably be more than ready for you to get back to the penis. Try these two strokes, suggested by Stubbs: the Juicer and the Serpent.

To Juice: Hold the base of the shaft with the right hand (using it to pull down the foreskin, if there is one). With the left hand hovering over the shaft like a parachute, grasp the coronal ridge with your fingertips and rotate your left wrist, twisting the hand and moving it up and down as though you were juicing an orange.

For the Serpent: Grasp the shaft with the right hand, as with the Juicer. With the left hand, hook your index finger and thumb just below the coronal ridge, then snake your fingers around his penis as far as the wrist will allow. Give him a sample of each stroke, and see which feels better for him. Repeat. Repeat some more. Soon, your husband will have a powerful orgasm. Take a moment. And then wipe him off with a tissue.

 Five minutes

Unlike your usual routine, this erotic massage does not end five seconds after his climax. Oh, no. It ends five minutes after his climax. The postorgasmic portion of the massage is when you get to show him your kindness and love. And — good news for tired you — it lasts for only a few minutes.

Spend them on his legs, ankles and feet. Do some connecting strokes along his thighs and bend his knees so you can reach the soft skin on the back of his legs. Right at the inner knee crease, give h

im a feather stroke. Then knead his calf and thigh muscles.

After a big O, tickling his ankles and Achilles tendon (another erogenous zone) will result in a deeply contented little oh. The pad underneath the big toe is also a hot spot. In fact, the feet are covered with acupressure points, so give the whole sole a squeeze. A final stroke, which Stubbs refers to as slithering, is the perfect end: Put your index finger between his big and next toe. With a well-oiled hand, turn your wrist side-to-side as you lift your finger so that you’ll slither out of the confinement of his toes. Do this for each in-between space of both feet.

Since he is snoring by now, the stresses of the day forgotten (making him a much nicer person to live with), pull the covers over him and turn out the light. If you’ve become excited during the head-to-toe worship you’ve given him, hold on to it (i.e., don’t masturbate). When it’s your turn to be duly worshipped (hopefully, the very next night), the massage you receive will be even more intense and satisfying if you’re a tad frustrated.

In fact, any massage you give or receive will be intense and satisfying — more so than your regular sexual routine, no matter how robust. Intimacy and connection increase the power of all your erogenous zones. The heart is the biggest hot spot: By treating him to a rubdown, you’ll give him the heart-on of his life. He’ll jump at the chance to return it in kind.

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