God vs Vibes
So my mother asks me why I refer to "lovers" on my Facebook. She tells me that it is degrading to myself as a woman, and disrespectful to my husband. She says nobody needs to know of my past, that I’m better off referring to them as "boyfriends" or "friends".
I fail to see where she’s coming from, I don’t GET that the word "lover" should be such a degrading kind of word. I tell her I use that word because it sounds a lot more romantic. She laughs and says "Well, I must be from a whole other generation or culture or something, then. When my father referred to ‘amantes’ it was with disdain. ‘Amante’ is never a positive word".
I tell her that I have nothing to hide, and that the past isn’t just the past – that my life as a whole is ME.
I log onto Facebook and delete any references to ‘lovers’.
And then I see her comment to my latest status. My latest status was regarding my interview this morning, and it was in Spanish because I don’t want ex-co-workers to know, and it said "Send me good vibes" which I figure is the way in which at least Chilean people say "Wish me good luck".
Mum writes "Vibes ???? Vibes ???? Depending upon vibes when you have an all-powerful God ???? Honey, don’t forget your God. Thou shalt not have other gods before Me".
Perhaps she was just in the mood to preach today. Who knows. Who cares.
But I do care because that’s just what it is – preaching. It’s not well-meant advice, it’s preaching.
I think up of a million responses. I type them all up. I erase each and every one.
I think of explaining to her that I just thought it was a ‘saying’. I think of explaining that in any case, vibes are not in direct competition with God. I think of explaining that , if anything, God created those vibes in the first place. (Positive and negative energies , atoms spinning around to create matter , you get it).
But all of these will be futile. She has her ways of thinking and perceiving God, and I have mine. If I explained any of the above, she will just turn around and say "Don’t confuse things Honey. That’s exactly what Satan would have you think".
Hm. Whatever.
All I know is that I was just asking for people to wish me luck. Just asking for peoples’ positive thoughts. I don’t see how that directly takes place of, or competes, with the prayer I send up to God ANYWAY on my way to the interview.
Though I don’t ask God for anything.
I just thank Him. Thank Him for the opportunity. It is up to Him, ultimately, to give the job to me if it is meant to be.
Anyhow…
ahhh… mothers, mine is the same. ay yi yi!
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Bueno, la verdad es que tu mamá tiene razón en que acá “amante” es una palabra de connotación fea. No es como en inglés, un lover es algo bonito, romántico, uno al decir esa palabra siente el cariño que le tenÃa a esa persona incluso. Whereas in Spanish, un amante es la persona con quien engañaste a tu pareja. Por eso suena tan feo. Cuando alguien dice “amante”, acá lo primero en que se piensa es”la otra persona en la relación”. In saying that, I love the word lover 🙂 🙂 xxxxxx
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Hey, speaking of amantes…!!!!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ac7GqU3rSSc PLEASE listen to that song, I swear it’s so passionate lol. I feel for Mark Anthony every single time he sings it. He’s the amante of a woman, and he finds out she has another amante too. I think you will enjoy that song, I swear it always sends chills down my spine 😛 let me know how you liked it! 🙂 haha besitos
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Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm……………….
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Your life belongs to you and only you. You allowed mommy’s careless judgments to upset you enough to bother editing your FaceBook. And in doing so, you edit yourself as a human being. STOP. Dismiss NOTHING about yourself. Hide NOTHING. You are perfect the way you are! No one, not me or a husband and certainly not a parental unit, can take that from you. EVER.
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