IM NOT A BABY

Being the one of the babies of my family does not help me in adulthood, at all, namely because they don’t see me as an adult. My mother for the last four years has been telling me the same thing…….YOU NEED TO MOVE BACK TO MISSOURI,YOU NEED TO GET THE HELL OUT OF THE AONE HORSE TOWN,YOU SHOULDNT OF GOTTEN MARRIED TO A WHITE WOMAN,AND I WORRY ABOUT YOU………….what parent doesn’t worry about there kids, I worry about my daughter all the time, its in your DNA as a parent to worry, but my family its not about worry……….its about age. Ill be 40 in two years, its a mark that I still can’t believe, but do you think that would wake up my family to the fact that I’m no longer a kid???? hell no, or that what I tell them should be taken seriously???? hell no, again, sometimes I don’t even like talking to them cause everything I say is taken with a grain of salt, OH ROBERT JUST SAID IT SO JUST IGNORE IT, I feel like one of the parents from the PEANUTS cartoons, just wawawawawawa,that what they hear. Some folks can ignore it, but for me its a every time thing, they don’t see a 38 year old man here, they see a 3 or 8 year old, and its easier to say then to be done. I told my mother, several different times that I was going to LEAVE Kansas city, 20 plus years to be exact, but like with everything I do or say………its ignored, to tell you the truth I don’t think anybody in my family thought I was actually serious, until APRIL 2010 when I moved, yeah it hasn’t been a breeze since I been here, no, jobs are worse here then they ever was in Kansas city, but I TOLD THEM I was leaving, so going back will give them all fuel to say with all intention I TOLD YOU SO……….not happening. I’m not a baby folks, as I said ill be 40 come 2015, and the way I see it if my family didn’t support me all my 20s, all my 30s, then they never will, of where I live, who I’m married to, or anything in between, ill just chalk it up to THEY WILL NEVER TAKE MY WORDS SERIOUSLY, and leave it at that…………….SO SAY WE ALL.

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January 21, 2014

Sounds rough. My sympathies.

January 21, 2014

I can relate, although I’m only 21 they’ve treated me that way all my life, and with stubborn parents like them I doubt it will ever change. I understand what you mean though. You moving away probably didn’t ring a bell in your mother’s head that you’ve grown up, nothing that you do will… BUT when you do something wrong or ‘childish’ it confirms to here that you still are a baby. It’s like…

January 21, 2014

…when you do someone right nobody notices but when you make a mistake there they are to tell you that they were right and you ****ed up.