A New Drama Queen

So…Caelan has a new girl.  There’s this chick from another state that he’s been talking too.  The two have been getting close, I guess, but she just seems like a whole bunch of drama.  I wish him luck with that, but I’m starting to wonder if I really want to be around for all of this.  I already don’t like her from hearing her stories alone.  Personally, I think he can do a lot better and his involvement with her is making me reconsider my recent decisions.

Oz and I have decided to move with Caelan.  In general, it’s what’s best for all of us.  Financially it’s better.  The kids still get to be near their dad.  There are a ton more benefits.  However, I’m starting to think these benefits are not worth the drama this girl is going to bring into our lives.  We really don’t need that right now.

First off, this girl has been playing games with Caelan.  She wants him to visit, supposedly, but won’t really allow him to.  He was supposed to spend part of his R&R with her.  Then he was supposed to spend part of his block leave with her.  Now he’s not going to see her until he moves, and even then I doubt it.

Next there’s her excuses.  She talks about how she’s got this ex-boyfriend who violently rapes her whenever he feels like it, yet she won’t do anything about it.  She’s been advised to get a restraining order, but she claims she can handle it.  In one situation she was alone at work when this guy was supposedly showing up to file some paperwork.  She didn’t answer the phone when Caelan was persistently calling and he thinks his constant calls were the reason that he left.  I doubt it.  In truth, I just think she doesn’t want this guy to know she’s dating someone else.  I have to wonder if it’s not violent rapes like she claims, but instead just that they go at it like rabbits.  That would certainly explain why she won’t do anything about it and keeps allowing herself to be alone with him, even though she knows what’s supposedly going to happen.  I hate to say it, but I know a lot of women who play that same con with men online that they want to lead along.  I wouldn’t be surprised if this is the same kind of case.  It’s easy to justify her not wanting Caelan to visit if she thinks it’s going to make this man become more violent and dangerous to her.  It also makes Caelan even more inclined to want to protect and take care of her.  Truth or lies, he’s buying the whole thing and is definitely hooked.  This sob story of hers has him so wrapped up in her that he can’t even see straight.

Now I’ve heard the latest sob story.  Apparently she was putting together a flower arrangement to put at her son’s grave site.  Her son would be about Corde’s age now, were he still alive.  This has caused Caelan to fall even more into the trap that is her life, again, real or fiction.  Apparently her son died due to an accident with a swimming pool.  Somehow he managed to get into a "secured" pool and drowned.  First off, what the hell was that kid doing unattended at all of two or three years old?  Further, how secured was that swimming pool if he could fall into it?  Seriously?  Of course, he said that he could understand as Beekee got into his room earlier and could have easily killed himself by knocking the broad sword over on himself.  If that cross guard had hit him in the eye the right way it could have gone into his brain.  Now, for starters, the chances of that happening are pretty slim.  For seconds, what the hell is he doing keeping a sword in such a way in an unsecured room when he knows children are around.  I can’t be watching Beekee every second of the day all it takes is long enough for me to go to the bathroom and Beekee’s in that room.  Third, it would take some pretty extreme circumstances for Beekee to be killed by a sword falling on him.  However, this kid would not only have to be gone long enough to get to the pool, but get into this supposedly "secured" pool.  I’m sorry, but I don’t know anyone who would let a kid Beekee’s age wander off outside the house, whether there’s a pool or not.  It’s just not safe.  And I would definitely put a locking door on my pool so "secured" would mean far more than "latched shut".  I’m sorry, but I would never put my child in a situation like that.  There’s plenty of people who make excuses, but in my opinion, there’s no excuse for not supervising your child.  If Beekee were to get into Caelan’s room and be killed by that sword it would be whoever it was that was home to blame for not paying enough attention.

Then Caelan offered to go to the grave site with her and have a picnic lunch or something.  He said that she seemed to be shocked by his kindness and sensitivity.  In truth, I don’t know if that’s the case.  Personally, I think it’s a little weird.  I understand that he’s just trying to be nice, but maybe she doesn’t want to share that time with her boyfriend.  Maybe that’s a private moment for her.  I think, honestly, he should have waited for her to talk about the subject, especially since she avoids it from everything Caelan’s said about it.

He also said that she was shocked in a good way that Caelan wanted her to be around Corde when we talked about Corde living with her dad.  Apparently he talked to her about this.  He thought it was because she was shocked that he’d want his daughter to know someone like her.  I’ve been in that situation before, and have known many people who have.  In the past it hasn’t been a feeling of "Wow, he wants me to be involved in his kid’s life!  That’s great!"  It’s more, "He wants me to meet his kid?!?  This is moving way too fast!  Is he sure about that?  I’m honored and all, but this is a bit much to take."  I don’t know.  It just seems like he’s reading into this what he wants to see in this, not so much the more logical reality of it all.

There’s just so much going on with this girl.  She’s got tons of drama.  She’s been playing avoidance games with Caelan.  Her stories are those I’ve heard a million times over from women who string men along online that they never intend to meet.  On top of that, he’s done more than enough to scare her off.  He’s told her that he wants her to meet his kid.  He’s told her that Oz and I are likely going to be moving with him, which she seems to find a bit questionable.  He’s even talked about wanting to marry her if things work out since it’s the only way he can take her with him when he gets his permanent station.  I think it’s way too soon to be talking marriage.  He hasn’t even met her!  It seems like every little thing she says is just sucking him in more and more.

I’ve been down this road before with him.  There was this girl from T

exas, ironically, that was with him before I met him.  He was talking with her about moving her to Mass with him and taking care of her and all that.  They talked for a while, but it never ended up working out.  I told him that if she didn’t make arrangements by the end of the week to drop her.  She didn’t make arrangements, so he gave her nearly another month before giving up on her.  I’ve said the same thing with this girl.  She’s playing him.  I would be shocked if she isn’t.  I’ve warned him not to get too attached.  I’ve warned him that she’s showing all the signs of playing games with him.  Yes, they’ve talked on the phone, but from what I can tell it’s only been maybe once a week, possibly less.  I’m sorry, but I’ve never known anyone to have a long distance relationship that talks on the phone that little, though it seems normal for him.  I mean, I’m not nosing in on his conversations or anything, but he’s spent the past month being with Oz and I almost the whole time, and aside from when he’s been on the phone dealing with bills, he’s only gotten a couple calls, and those were work related and from his father.  It’s possible he’s gotten calls when we weren’t around or when we’re in bed, but I find it highly doubtful.  It just seems like he’s setting himself up to get hurt.  I’ve warned him about this.  I’ve never been wrong about this kind of thing with anyone else, so why would I be wrong for the first time with him?  Because he just wants so desperately for this to work out?   Because there’s "something about this girl"?  The only something about this girl is that she’s damaged goods and in a bad way so he feels like he can take care of her.  I’m starting to wonder if all men feel the need to play the white knight in shining armor.  He’s got this obsession with taking care of "broken people".

I don’t know.  I kind of hope that Oz finds a job soon.  I really don’t want to leave here, but it’s financially the better situation for us.  We’re not a bad little family.  Since Caelan’s gotten back we’ve mostly functioned really well as a family unit.  We all get along.  We’ve been doing things together.  It’s been really nice to have my best friend back as my best friend again.  Unfortunately, I don’t want to deal with the fallout from this girl…

~*~Rave~*~