Wedding Blues

Most bride-to-be would never admit to being depressed about their wedding.

Well this bride-to-be will admit it.

Mostly it’s the planning.  And the planning to go without.

Yes, go without a wedding.  Very simply, it comes down to cost.  Harrison and I don’t have a ton of money left after paying all of the bills and rent and etc. 

 We want to save up money for a house down the road.  That’s like $10,000 to put down for a good house on a good-sized lot in a nice place.  We’ve more or less nixed the idea of a house in the next 2 years because in the next 3-4 years (depending on class scheduling), he’ll get his Masters and then start looking for counseling jobs and if he gets a good counseling job offer we may end up moving out of the area.  Since we can’t plan past his getting his degree, we don’t see any reason to get a house.  That’s a 10-15 year kind of commitment and shouldn’t just be viewed as an "investment" because it’s more than just an investment.  It’s our life, our family home, our first home.  And maybe our only home if we get lucky.

So on top of saving the aforementioned $10k, we’d also have to save (or find) $2-3k more for a wedding.  I’m not saying it couldn’t be done, I know people who have done similiar on smaller budgets.  But I’m just saying to me, it seems like throwing away money when I look at all of the more "essential" things that $3,000 could buy (like a car or another 2 months rent, bills, loan payments, etc).

I’m trying to find ways around it, ways to cut costs and corners.  I’m planning to DIY most of whatever wedding I have, call in favors to get stuff for free, all kinds of things.  Heck, I entered a wedding contest where you’re whole wedding day is payed for and sponsored by different vendors.  You get no say in anything from the sounds of it but it would be someone else footing the bill for a VERY NICE wedding in one of several available beautiful locations, plus the dress, plus the flowers, the food, and a spa stay for 2 days.  Really, couldn’t complain about winning that.  Even if it would mean getting married in 7 months lol.  That’s still plenty of time to mail save the dates and invites.

But yeah.  So I’m a little depressed planning my own wedding.  Really wish I had come from upper middle class where my family might actually be able to at least help me pay for the wedding.  (I have plenty of family willing to help but they don’t have the funds to help, bless their hearts.)

Some girls get the wedding of their dreams…some girls don’t even get a "real" wedding day.