19 days of NoJoMoing fun…

I’m not going to write on the prompt of what it takes to win my heart because in a way that’s pointless.  Someone has already won my heart and I have no desire for anyone else to even attempt to win my heart.  Plus I don’t even know if I could truly answer that question because so many little things play into it.  Some of it involves things that you either have it or you don’t.  It’s not things that a person could change themselves to be.  Like me feeling comfortable around someone.  That either happens or it doesn’t.  Think about it.  There are people you have probably known years but yet you still don’t feel 100% comfortable around them for one reason or another.  Yet you probably have some people you’ve known less time but yet they make you feel more comfortable.  You let your guard down more around those people.  Part of that is trust.  You figure if you trust someone more than chances are you’re more comfortable around that person.  The less you trust someone the more you’re probably on guard and not really relaxing/being comfortable.  At least that’s how I think.  I could be wrong.  But that’s just me.  I don’t think anyone could ever win my heart if they couldn’t make me feel completely comfortable around them.  Like J makes me comfortable.  I don’t mind him touching me or what I wear around him.  He’s seen me looking like the biggest bum and he’s still liked me just the same as when I’m dressed up.  Most of all I just feel at ease around him.  I trust him.  There’s more to it though.  That’s not the only reason he won my heart.  It’s just one piece of the puzzle.  One aspect needed in order to finish the mission. 

The other reason that question is hard to answer is because sometimes you don’t realize something helps win over your heart until it happens or your experience it.  Someone could act a certain way or talk a certain way and until you experience it you never realize how much that gets to you, how much it makes your heart melt.  You could never think that someone being funny could win over your heart until you experience their humor and hear their jokes.  You might never think that someone being a hard worker could win over your heart until you see them busting their butt doing things and trying to better their lives.  But most of all is the fact that sometimes the flaws in another person can be what helps win over your heart.  Someone’s weird laugh could help to win you over.  Or it could be the weird way a person says certain words or any number of things.  That’s why I can’t answer the question really.  I don’t know what all it is about J that won over my heart.  Some of it was his persistence of being into me and trying to win me over.  Some of it was his humor and his passion about things in life.  A part of it was just who he is and everything about him.  Here’s further why I say that question is hard to answer.  Think about the fact that chances are in life you’ve loved more than one person and chances are those people were all different in at least one way or another.  Sure they probably were alike in some ways but they weren’t 100% the same.  So obviously there was some differences in things that could help win you over.  Obviously sometimes we’re not set in stone as to what it takes to win over our heart. 

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I had to edit this and ramble on another topic that just came up.  Recently just got into a debate with some people on Facebook over an issue.  It’s one of those deals where something happened, video came out of the situation and now people are raising hell over it.  Well the first person posting stuff was instantly against what happened and pretty much calling for someone’s head over it.  And this is all based on video they’ve seen.  I tried to explain the fact that stuff happened BEFORE anyone started recording the situation.  That means you’re missing pieces of the puzzle so how can you 100% make a decision when you don’t know all the facts?  Let’s face facts.  For the most part people aren’t just walking around with cameras rolling recording every little aspect of situations.  Usually people start recording situations because something happens that makes them think "oh this is going to get good".  Someone starts yelling.  Someone starts shoving.  Someone starts acting stupid.  Something happens to make the person break out a camera and record what is going on.  I tried to explain this to the few people, to explain that hey just because you see a video doesn’t mean you’re seeing 100% of the situation and what caused it.  Chances are you’re NOT.  Chances are you’re missing very important pieces.  Like the pieces that caused the situation to hit that point. 

I love when I’m debating with someone and I ask a question and they avoid it.  It’s even better when I ask the same question again and still it gets ignored.  I asked the people at what point do you say enough is enough when people aren’t listening to what you say?  How many times do you tell people to stop doing something before you go to that next step/level?  I found it ironic how they kept avoiding answering that.  Maybe because by answering it they’d have to admit that situations do reach a point where you have to go to that next level if people are not listening.  It’s like if a teacher is trying to conduct class and the students aren’t listening and are talking non-stop.  That teacher can only ask them to quiet down so many times before the teacher has to take a different step to get them to be quiet.  Whether it’s raising their voice or whatever the case.  It’s like if your child isn’t listening to you telling them not to touch something.  You’re not going to sit there and tell them 1,000 times to not touch the item.  Eventually you’re going to either raise your voice, pull the child away from the item or something to get through to them and get them to listen to you.  But yet the people I was debating kept avoiding that point.  Kept trying to twist things.  I always laugh at that point.  At least now I’m nice enough when people get like that to give them the easy out by saying I’ll agree to disagree.  I could easily point out how they avoid my question when I don’t avoid theirs.  Why is that?  Hmm?  Cause if someone asks me a question and it’s not valid at all…I respond.  The only time I’d avoid that question is if by answering it…I’d prove the other person right and prove myself wrong.  "Oh well the video proves it".  No, the video proves what happened AFTER other situations happened.  Something happened that lead people to that point, that things escalated enough to make people feel it would be interesting enough to video tape the situation.  All of that points to the fact that the video doesn’t show all.  It’s like a news story.  They don’t show you all the footage or what happened before they started filming.  They can only show you once they hit record.  I love close minded people like that.  Those are the same people who watch the news and believe 100% of everything they’re shown.  Those are the people who don’t realize the good that’s been done by US troops in Iraq.  Why?  Because it’s not shown.  The news has to show what’s interesting to the viewers. 

I speak from experience.  Anytime I’ve recorded an interesting moment there were things that happened before I started to record it.  Especially when its random moments that happen out of the blue.  It’s one thing if it’s a sporting event or concert or something that you might go into it expecting to record things.  But I do laugh when people can’t handle a debate.  "Ohhh you’re making a valid point so I’m going to ignore that and twist it to seem like you’re not on the right track."  "Oh that question you asked might prove me wrong so I’m going to pretend you didn’t ask me anything."  It makes me laugh.  Ahh what fun for the night.  Now back to watching a movie.