Who is this man?
pa·ter·nal
1. Relating to or characteristic of a father or fatherhood; fatherly.
2. Received or inherited from a father: a paternal trait.
3. Related through one’s father: my paternal aunt.
pa·ter·nal
1. characteristic of or befitting a father; fatherly: a kind and paternal reprimand.
2. of or pertaining to a father.
3. related on the father’s side: one’s paternal grandfather.
4. derived or inherited from a father: paternal traits.
father
1. a male parent.
2. a father-in-law, stepfather, or adoptive father.
3. any male ancestor, esp. the founder of a race, family, or line; progenitor.
4. a man who exercises paternal care over other persons; paternal protector or provider: a father to the poor.
5. a person who has originated or established something: the father of modern psychology; the founding fathers.
6. a precursor, prototype, or early form: The horseless carriage was the father of the modern automobile.
7. one of the leading men in a city, town, etc.: a scandal involving several of the city fathers.
8. Chiefly British. the oldest member of a society, profession, etc. Compare dean1 (def. 3).
9. a priest.
10. (initial capital letter) Theology. the Supreme Being and Creator; God.
11. a title of respect for an elderly man.
12. the Father, Theology. the first person of the Trinity.
13. Also called church father. Church History. any of the chief early Christian writers, whose works are the main sources for the history, doctrines, and observances of the church in the early ages.
14. Ecclesiastical.
a. (often initial capital letter) a title of reverence, as for church dignitaries, officers of monasteries, monks, confessors, and esp. priests.
b. a person bearing this title.
15. fathers, Roman History. conscript fathers.
–verb (used with object)
16. to beget.
17. to be the creator, founder, or author of; originate.
18. to act as a father toward.
19. to acknowledge oneself the father of.
20. to assume as one’s own; take the responsibility of.
21. to charge with the begetting of.
–verb (used without object)
22. to perform the tasks or duties of a male parent; act paternally: Somehow he was able to write a book while fathering.
bi·o·log·i·cal
1. Of, relating to, caused by, or affecting life or living organisms.
2. Having to do with biology.
3. Related by blood, as in a child’s biological parents.
So I have decided to contact my biological father so that I can learn more about my mother. I have not since him in 20 years. He is 58 now. He tried to find me three years ago. I was so mad that he waited until after I was 18 that I wanted nothing to do with him. It is not like he owes child support because he forfeited his rights when I was adopted. But now all my anger is gone.
And it is not like I am looking for a father or a mother I have that. It is just they were close to my mother and when she died they stop talking about her and I have so much question, about her. Truth be told frankly I do not give a damn about him. But I was amazed how happy he was that I called him even though it was three years later.
I decided I am not going to tell my parents that I am talking to him because I do not want them to feel like I am replacing them. Plus I only tell them stuff that is really important, which is usually everything.