Best Friend – Am I Really?
The following (in bold) is taken directly from urbandictionary.com, as one of the definitions there for “best friend”:
A best friend is someone who is there for you through thick and thin. It’s someone who listens and understands you. Someone you can call anytime about anything you feel you need to ‘tell’ or ‘vent’. It’s someone who will stand up for you in the times when you need it most, keep your secrets close, and someone you can trust with your life. They will support you in any decision you make even if it’s hard for them. It’s someone who is there for you as much as they can be and does and says whatever they can to up your mood in down times. You can be your COMPLETE and total self around this person without feeling uncomfortable. You can say or do anything, and your relationship never changes. Someone who literally feels sent from heaven to make your life that much easier. Someone who will do almost anything for you as you would do for them, and someone who loves you no matter what kind of stupid things you do. This person will always want the best for you, as you will always want for them. And as much as people change- Your love with a REAL best friend will never fade through all the phases of life and problems that come a long with it.
When I go through hard times, there is only one person who is there for me no matter what and that actually makes me better, that’s my best friend.
by CaliGirl07 December 25, 2011
Before I get into this entry, I want to thank user “CaliGirl07” at urbandictionary.com for coming up with the above definition of what a best friend is.
This might be a nearly 12-year old definition of “best friend”, but I have no reason to question it and I think it’s pretty solid, as far as definitions go.
Who would’ve imagined that anything from Urban Dictionary would have been even remotely deep and thought-provoking? I mean no disrespect to Urban Dictionary as a website or as a source of knowledge on the internet because the information there is entertaining and at times, useful. Of all places, who would’ve thought that I would have found a great definition of “best friend” there? CaliGirl07 put a lot of thought and emotion into her definition and I thought it was very insightful.
In June, Serena had blind-sided me when she told me that she already regarded me as her best friend. Though I had known her since January and was still getting to know her in May, I didn’t know what to think of Serena already labeling me by such an important label. I was taken aback by it all, though I didn’t do anything to deter her from looking at me in such a positive light. I had just wondered what I had done to deserve that title.
Prior to June, and probably dating back to my grade school years, no one had ever referred to me as their best friend. Serena made me really think about it all. I tend to shy away from nearly all social interaction. I don’t talk much. I have friends and can be a friend, but I’ve never seen myself as anyone’s best friend. I’m nobody’s go-to person. No one runs to me or seeks me out. I’m just there, just sort of hanging around and mostly minding my own business. Still, Serena saw something in me and all of a sudden, I find myself as someone’s best friend and I don’t quite know how to handle it.
Serena has so many friends and I’m assuming so many other people in her life. As confident as I am about myself, I have to wonder, “Why me?” I’ve said this before and I think I’ve written this in here as well. I’m not saying that Serena judgment is off or worth questioning.
I just don’t get it. In my head, I’m just that quiet guy in the corner who keeps to himself and tries not to talk to anyone. At work, I am the complete opposite. At work, I’m the guy who comes off like a social butterfly, making fun of everything, and talking to damn near anyone who will listen.
Serena could have befriended and “best friended” anyone else. Yet somehow, she chose me.
Why me?