The Holes in the Ceiling Etc

Today is the Big Meeting which will include Fred and at least two of his physical therapy people. It will also include his case worker, his daughter, and finally me! More news later.

I got email from our landlord yesterday saying he will be in today at 1:30 to put new tiles up in the bedroom ceiling. If you want to know why we need new tiles, read here. Normally, I would be there but I can’t skip the Big Meeting since I have had to make a a lot of noise about being there. {Fred and I are not married and therefore I have no legal right in situations like this.} So, I emailed him back saying "Go for it!" and asking him to be sure to lock the door after he left! I have noticed that since Fred has been gone, I keep the doors locked all the time! Anyway, before I head out today, I have to move everything out of the space under where the tiles will go. I am going to make the bed and organize all the clothes on it, which are mostly Fred’s summer stuff which I am washing before I put it away, into neat piles. I am not going to even try to move the bookshelf and the DVDs stored therein but will just cover them with a blanket. It will be nice not to have all the heat going up through the holes into the roof.

More news later…

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TheWoodsprite

November 2, 2011

I’m glad he’s finally coming to put up your new tiles! And I hope the meeting is productive. This is why every state needs to have a domestic partnership law that gives people like you and Fred, the same rights as a married couple would have. It’s not just gay couples who need this; there are lots of heterosexual couples who have lived together for years and need it, too. hugs, Nicky

Violet

Your situation reminds me of an episode of “Waiting for God,” a British comedy; the one where Diana can’t get the doctors to tell her what’s wrong with Tom, who is in the hospital. I wonder if there isn’t some kind of legal document you and Fred could have drawn up giving each other the right to know that kind of information and make decisions for each other.

Glad to hear those new tiles are finally going in! And, I believe you should have EVERY right to be in the meeting with Fred. You two have been together for a long time now and you are and will be, afterall, his main caregiver when he gets home. * sighs * I just don’t get the system sometimes. Hugs,M

gray tabby

hope it goes well with fred and the big meeting. you’re lucky you were able to be included in the meeting since you two aren’t married. i have friends who lived together for 34 years til he died just this month. somehow, she was able to be there with him all the time and make decisions for him. i think they had some sort of legal papers drawn up before anything happened so she could be the one tomake decisions for him when he couldn’t do it for himself. glad you are getting those tiles replaced. take care,

I hope the tiles get replaced with a minimum amount of ‘mess’ left for you to clean up. I also hope your meeting goes well!

I hope the meeting goes well and that you get all the info that you need.

Hope the meeting goes well…. and that the new tiles go up and don’t create a mess for you!

jjjtripled

Good news about the tiles. I know Fred would want you in that meeting.