Morning Entry

I can’t understand spouses having to ask each other permission for things….it seems to me that those people must have been looking for surrogate parents to marry, rather than spouses. I say, if they aren’t ready and able to share the money equally, what are they planning to share the bed for?! Here’s wishing you a lovely day….it’s a mite chilly here, for the second day of spring! hugs, Weesprite

Actually, my husband and I discussed some purchases. Never thought of it as asking permission though.

Good luck with your to do list. I was up early so my supper is marinating and my washing is done. Nothing to do but relax.

I always inform my husband of minor purchases since he is the holder of the budget while I’m in school, but I don’t ask permission unless it is a major purchase, but I expect the same from him, if it’s major even though he’s the one making all the money right now. It’s a joint venture and each one needs to work out what is right for them in their marriage. I feel right now sometimes like I shouldask permission because I’m not contributing, but then I know that I have contributed in a meaningful way for the rest of our marriage.

By the way, what is SAHM? I’m not familiar with that acronym.

I can remember being a SAHM and feeling as if I didn’t have rights to the checkbook. Course, that was because as far as my ex was concerned, I didn’t. Then I sat down one day and listed all the people he would need to replace me and what it would cost him. Things got easier after that, but I still had to put my foot down if it was me I wanted to spend money on. Glad those days are over! Loveyou! ~M

i don’t understand the permission thing either unless it is a major purchase. i like your cleaning regimen. i should try it.

What is SAHM? Silly Angry Housewife Maybe? hehehe, just wondering. Rich and I ask for permission over $40 because that requires our strict budget to be adjusted. Hopefully one day we won’t have to anymore, but for now, it helps us.

If you’re not earning the money, isn’t it just polite to ask the wage-earner’s permission before making an unplanned purchase, large or small?

I think that mindset comes from a different generation. In my mother’s years, the husband was in charge of the money and she had to ask permission for everything. I would probably be the same way except I earn my own money. We would pool it and share equally in an ideal world, but early on, T did some stupid things with money and I refused to give him any of mine. Been that way ever since. Just another straw in the pile. LOL! Sorry you are having such cold, miserable weather. I thought it would snow today, but it’s only been chilly. It rained this morning, but it’s supposed to be sunny and warm for the rest of the week. Want to come sit in the sun on my porch swing and read your book for a while?

My husband and I have a “discussion” for anything over 200.00. We have a monthly budget that allows some breathing room, but…and I also am a firm believer that just because one brings home the bacon doesn’t mean all of the bacon is theirs. A supporting role can be much work. Someone’s got to take out the garbage ;>)

In 2002, when I was going door to door for the PA gubernatorial primary, I had a woman walk back inside her house and ask her husband which candidate she should support. It’s sad. But, evidentially, it happens.

I’m a big fan of the his, hers, and ours budget plan.

I love your closing quote. It’s wonderful. ~

Yeah, I don’t understand that, either.

Good morning! I hope it’s a lovely spring day for you! ryn: oh, I can’t tolerate provincial people either. The world offers so much variety; why try to stick to the same ol’ same ol’? We LOVED shopping in town, in England….all the neat shops, especially the fish and produce shops. It was all so colorfully DIFFERENT from here; that is why we found it so charming! And walking…. the public footpaths that often led through amazing places like cow pastures…. :o) !! I would not have traded our experiences there for ANYTHING!! :o) !! hugs, Weesprite

RYN: It’s Monsoon, by Coty. It can be bought on ebay, but only if you’re prepared to pay through the nose (which I’m not). It’s just a sad thing, because my daughter calls it her ‘mum smell’ and I’d hate her to lose her ‘mum smell’ for ever! Thanks for the offer, if anyone has some, I’d be really grateful.

ryn: Yes, I am beginning to think I should too, but then I am a solitary little fish and as I didn’t have partner or child with me complaining about being stuck I think I would have enjoyed the wait even if it was just spent gazing at the countryside and watching the other cars go past.

Re: having to ask spouse to buy something. That is quite the mentality here in australia too. Even if the woman works, she usually has to ask permission to buy something as her wage is less than his. It seems that money is the power thing and the one who earns it is the one who has the say. After all, the woman is spending the money HE has earnt. (not my thoughts, but the thinking behind the attitude here) No one seems to care that the amount of work a stay at home mum does is worth so much more than his meagre income ever will be. It also opens the door for the man to feel the right to criticise what she does during the day, as though she has to earn her keep. I disagree with this attitude intensely. Is it any wonder I have had four divorces?.. *grins*