How I Am Doing
I notice I am doing what I always do in times of crisis in my life and that is try to organize everything around me. My sister pointed this out to me when Fred was in the hospital a few years ago having colon surgery. I am also making down-to-the-last detail lists. Now, many of you know that when I feel comfortable with my life, I still make lists. For example, I would normally have on my list "Summer furniture". This would mean stack chairs, bring umbrella into the house, put plastic over the umbrella holder to stop rain and snow filling it up and push it under the table, and put out the bigger bird feeders. I got these details in the previous sentence from the list I made yesterday!
Another thing I have also noticed about how I am these days is how difficult it is for me to finish a biggish job. I am in the middle of sorting out Fred’s summer and winter clothes and washing the summer clothes before they are put away. Usually I get this job done in one morning. This morning I notice there are stacks of clothes which have been there for several days… But on the more cheerful side, I AM getting things done albeit more slowly than I am used to getting things finished.
My landlord came in last night after I had left him a phone message asking when he was going to come and fix the ceiling tiles that got soaked when he let water run from the apartment above. He looked at the ceiling tiles and decided they couldn’t just be pushed back into position but would have to be replaced. So, he ripped them down and told me he would get some new ones and get it fixed. Now, one good thing about my landlord is that he never comes into the apartment unless he is invited, but since these days I am out every day and at irregular times to see Fred, I told him when he had the tiles, it was OK for him to come in and fix the bedroom ceiling even if I wasn’t there! {Irregular times for visits to Fred because his schedule for physical therapy is irregular and apparently the therapists tend to not come and get him if he has a visitor… His daughter and I agree that PT is more important for Fred than seeing us is, so we schedule his visits around his therapy times }
Creativity is inventing, experimenting, growing, taking risks,
breaking rules, making mistakes, and having fun.
— Mary Lou Cook
"We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers – but never blame yourself. It’s never your fault. But it’s always your fault, because if you wanted to change you’re the one who has got to change." — Katherine Hepburn
You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself in any direction you choose.
You’re on your own. And you know what you know.
You are the guy who’ll decide where to go. ~ Dr. Seuss
I do the exact same thing.While dealing with my older sister – trying to find a treatment program I am getting ready for a garage sale in 2 weeks and organizing it. Somehow I feel better knowing at least one thing is going in the right direction.Good luck with your husband and take care of yourself too.Lola Falana
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we cope with our stressors the best way we know… and if lists are how you do it… go for it!! i make lists cause i forget. fred does need his p/t more than he needs visitors right now. good idea to plan your visits around his schedule. take care,
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It takes me a long time to get big tasks done cuz I only work for short spurts and take lots of breaks! Like today, I am working at getting this mess of a house straightened up…. and prob’ly by the end of the day I will have done a good bit…. but it’s taking me all day, and I’m just glad to have the whole day to spend at it! Gee, I’m glad your landlord figured out that you need NEW ceilingtiles! hugs, Nicky
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I have a tendency to try to clean or organize things things, too, when I am stressed. *hugs*
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I am the exact opposite. When in crisis, I turn off my brain and play games on the computer as a way of coping. Having a to-do list just increases my stress and sends me reeling over the edge of the cliff into Crazy Lady Land.
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Under stress I tend to clean out-of-the-ordinary things, like using soap and water to wipe down the blinds. When the stress is my own health and I can’t clean, I don’t know what to do with myself. (PS. Making detailed lists is normal for me. The more there is to check off, the more I feel I’ve accomplished. Silly me.)
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I do enjoy the nice quotes you are sharing with us. Please be kind to yourself, and fair……you do have much to deal with. BTW I just posted off a NZ postcard yesterday to Fred at the address you gave us. I hope he gets many such items of mail..it may cheer him. I know how interested he is in NZ and other countries so it seemed the better option than a get well card. have a good day, hugs P
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Without my lists I get nothing done. It is what it is for people like us. Organize freaks! LOL!
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Many hugs. I get the same way when I am under stress, and I can only imagine how this all must be affecting you.
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