Ten Exhibits of Grammar Snobbery
I’ve waited long enough since my last rant about English grammar and spelling. To be precise, it’s been 5 years, 10 months, and 13 days since my previous grammatically-related rant. But no more! Here is my current list of snobbery for your reading pleasure.
They vs. He; Their vs. His
Last time, as none of you will recall since I wasn’t posting here in 2006, I complained about the grammatical mishandling of their vs. his. I’ve finally conceded to the use of the singular they and their, rather than using he and his when referring to a gender neutral person. The tradition of assuming that a group of people of unspecified gender can be referred to with the male descriptor is fading from acceptance.
The old-school, somewhat sexist method: <I helped a customer with his problem.>
Before the awkwardness of the singular they and their wore off, many writers started to make their nouns plural to accommodate for the plural descriptor.
Workaround #1: <I helped customers with their problems.>
But it was still difficult, since most of the time, I really wanted to talk about the one person I helped with the problem, and not a group of them.
Others used the equally awkward his or her.
Workaround #2: <I helped a customer with his or her problem.>
Now, the singular they and their is becoming commonplace and sounds less out of place, even if it betrays its original English meaning.
The new acceptable method: <I helped a customer with their problem.>
So my new philosophy is to embrace the grammatical notion that women are about 51% of the population and stop unwittingly calling people male by default.
Misspelling Grammar
Misspelling the word grammar as “grammer” automatically makes you sound like an ignoramus.
Exhibit A – Question about the proper use of grammar whilst misspelling the word grammar
Your ≠ You’re
This problematic pairing remains on the list. There isn’t any excuse for confusing the two words. If I see the wrong form being used, I automatically start to make assumptions about your education, your parents, and your value as a member of society.
Unfortunately, even Microsoft Word’s grammatical squiggly underline has trouble with the correct form sometimes, until I right click “ignore” on it.
And don’t get me started with ur. Ur was a Sumerian city-state in ancient Mesopotamia, and is definitely not a possessive pronoun.
Correct: <If you’re too lazy to write—or more likely, text—the right word, then you clearly should have your phone taken away from you and have it crushed by a slowly moving steamroller while you and your friends watch.>
Me ≠ Myself
Before my manager at work pointed out the misuse of myself, I was happily oblivious to this pesky annoyance.
Incorrect: <If you have any questions, please call your manager or myself.>
Correct: <Stop bothering me.>
Why do people insist to add the self-reflexive when the simple me does just fine? Why can’t people use simple words when they suffice?
Mispronouncing Paradigm
Last week I went to my doctor’s office for my three-month five minute checkup. Before I saw him, an office assistant took my blood pressure, pulse, and asked if I needed any prescriptions refilled. To understand the following, know that I have an insulin pump made by Medtronic Minimed, which is named a Paradigm Revel.
Oliver: “I need my insulin pump supplies prescriptions refilled, please.”
Assistant: “The para… para-dig-im…?”
Oliver: “Paradigm. Yes, I need a prescription for the tubing and reservoirs.”
Assistant: [talking to herself] “Paradi… Para-dizz-m.”
Oliver: “…”
The mispronouncing of a fairly common English word by a presumably educated professional preparing prescriptions makes me doubt my doctor office’s competency.
I’m not saying that paradigm is a great word. Ever since Thomas Kuhn invented the term “paradigm shift” in 1962’s The Structure of Scientific Revolutions, the word has been coopted into business jargon thanks to assholes like Stephen Covey, and now apparently as a “cool sounding word” for medical device names.
However, now I am apparently in the secret club of knowing how to pronounce the word. It’s a very secret club, and that feels good. Silent “g” in paradigm, yo!
And speaking of business jargon…
Going Forward
How this abominable phrase ever got started remains a mystery to me. But whoever said it first should die in a fire. People who say “going forward” instead of “from now on” or “in the future” are trying to sound more authoritative than they actually are. It’s pretentious.
I’m embarrassed to say that I’ve accidentally used it a few times.
Wrong: <Going forward, let’s touch base while we shift our paradigm.>
Right: <In the future, I will kick anyone who says “going forward” in the nutsack.>
Its ≠ It’s
“What’s the big deal if I miss an apostrophe once in a while?” you might ask.
“I don’t want to know you anymore,” I answer, looking for the nearest exit.
Correct: <Hooray! It’s time for grammar!>
Incorrect: <its like i dont even no wat an apostrophe is>
It isn’t language evolving over time. It’s not the system out to get you. It’s indolence. The occasional typo is easy enough, but usually the misuse of contractions are signs of a deeper residing dislike for the English language and for me as a reader.
Cus ≠ Because
I’ve read entire entries on Open Diary where every word was spelled correctly, sentences were arranged in reasonably sized paragraphs, and the topic was cogent. And yet, and yet, the author wrote cus throughout in lieu of because. Can someone explain this to me? Are they trying to be cute? Trying to phonetically represent their dialect?
I’m almost too discouraged by the transgression to venture more guesses.
Wrong: <I’m cute cus I use smiley faces when I write. :o)>
Right: <I’m a superior writer because I show my readers respect with my command of spelling and grammar.>
Incidentally, misspellings like this are also why I don’t like Twitter.
That ≠ Who
Many people these days don’t know the difference between inanimate objects and human beings.
Wrong: <I helped two people earlier that were dumbasses.>
Right: <I helped two people earlier who were dumbasses.>
That is a complementizer, which a lovely linguistic word that means "to introduce a complement clause or a reduced form of such a clause." Who is used to introduce a clause giving further information about a person or people previously mentioned.
Which is a bit trickier, but I’ll leave it up to you to figure out, smartypants.
Misspelling Definitely
Stop doing it. That is all.
Exhibit B – Definitely the wrong spelling of the word
Gosh, I’m guilty cos I’ve ever done the following : “its”, “going forward” and “who” (instead of “that”). 🙂 And “cos” – see the first line above. No excuse – sometimes may be due to laziness or mood. Or maybe sometimes I really don’t realise it. Being a non-native English speaker is not a good excuse, I know. But I agree that we should always take extra care in how we write instead of treating it lightly. Great post! 🙂
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Totally agree with you there…
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Huh. I always thought it was spelled “paradiggum.”
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I am really not sure about the singular they or their. While I don’t like using “he” if either a statement could apply to either sex, “they” just doesn’t sound correct. Is this actually accepted nowadays in formal writing?
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Yes. Yes. Yes. I especially agreed about the mispronunciation of paradigm. It worries me when “professionals” seem woefully undereducated. Visiting my cardiologist, I saw a box clearly labeled “Monitor Manuels.” One can only assume they were written in Spanish.
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You waited a long enough what? The thing about being grammatically obsessive is being grammatically obsessive while boasting on it publicly. Don’t shoot the messenger.
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As a former copy editor, I’m totally with you on all of these. My particular misspelling pet peeve lately is “lightening,” when talking about weather and not hair. The mispronunciation of nuclear drives me nuts, too. “Nuke-you-ler.” Gah. I can’t even make my mouth work that way, how can people consistently pronounce it like that?
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Yes!! Right on! Also, abusing apostrophe’s when attempting to signify plural’s gets me. These are always the same people who leave the apostrophes out of the contractions, for some reason.
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I second the annoyance with using apostrophes for plurals. It seems like I’ve been seeing that one EVERYWHERE lately. There seems to be a lot of misuse of “everyday” and “every day” as well. Those are two of my pet peeves. You can cut people slack for it in their blogs and emails, but these things are showing up more and more even in professional settings these days. It’s a little disturbing.
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omg get over yourself
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Hmm. As long as someone doesn’t type L!k3 Dis Cuz itz Ko0L – I think I’m okay. That’s by far much worse in my opinion, than messing up your/you’re or anything else really.
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While I appreciate proper form, I always keep in mind that people are far more important than lofty standards. Population percentages are not “grammatical notion”, but fact, and while “his” has been historically correct, this is no longer the case. As society advances and discards archaic notions, grammar follows. Language is fluid. While it is always important to learn the basics, one should also enjoy the nuances. At the very least, shed the pretension. In other words, “Whom say I ain’t got good english?” 🙂
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I have to agree about the singular “they” – while it still often seems wrong to me, it definitely doesn’t seem right to use “he” or “she” either. A friend of mine constantly corrects people when they use the term “nauseous” when they mean “nauseated.” But I think that’s an example of the evolution of language. No one now would think that you meant you were causing nausea if you said youwere nauseous.
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I hate when people can’t figure out how to spell ‘yeah’. Gong forward, I would like you to include this in your grammar entries. 😀 Oh, I don’t have a nut sack, so don’t bother attempting to kick me in it.
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I like it when people accidentally write ‘defiantly’ instead of ‘definitely’. Also, I like to use the female pronoun as the generic, since women are the majority.
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this is so wonderful. I really enjoy it when people use other words instead of definitely, like “defiantly” or “definitively.” I like to pretend that the person is actually doing something defiantly.
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p.s. You’ll probably enjoy this. http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2010/04/alot-is-better-than-you-at-everything.html
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A few of my grammar snob items: – Using “good” instead of “well.” – Not knowing when to use “less” or “fewer.” – Using “Joe and I” in situations that actually do call for “Joe and me.” – Mixing up “effect” and “affect.” Or “insure” and “ensure.” Or other similar words that sound similar but don’t mean the same thing. – “Lend” or “borrow.” Rawr. (I’m an English teacher. Can you tell?)
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How about those who start sentences without capitalizing the first word? That just makes my Strunk and White shrivel up and blow away! 🙂
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RYN: > why “eunuch” and “concubine”? Why not? > Seems unusual in this day and age to have either one. And so it is, very unusual. > Are you referring to BWV 1008? That’s the cello suite I mean, yes. As far as I know, there’s no connection between it and eunuchs or harems, though. Davo
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I can spell pretty much any word, but when it comes to grammar and punctuation I have never been very good at either of those, and as far as I am concerned as long as a person knows what I mean it’s all good.
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Good topic. > They vs. He; Their vs. His I used to be a stickler for that as well. I still don’t myself use the plural, but I guess I’m being habituated, as it doesn’t sound as bad when I hear it. There is no good solution, but I am conservative when it comes to usage, so I still opt for the traditional form. > Grammer “Smleh” should have put “hamburgar” instead of “hamburger” to show that he/she was pulling his/her own leg. > Your vs. You’re I sometimes use “Yr” as an affectation because they was a common abbreviation in old correspondence. I sometimes use the prefix “ur” meaning “original, primitive.” I don’t think I ever heard “paradigm” mispronounced. “Nucular” still always sticks in my craw. I deprecate, if not disdain, all the others. Davo PS there is probably a grammatical error in this note, as it is a law that such discussions almost always contain violations of what is being derided, but I don’t see any in yr entry. I’d be blind, of course, to my own.
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Saw you on reader’s choice. I guess I’m like you when it comes to grammar. I CRINGE when I spot one! And I almost always make corrections. And English is not even my mother-tongue.
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http://iampaddy.com/spell/
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LMAO @ Clio’s link. The intentional error on that page is hilarious.
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I once worked with a lady, in upper management, that constantly used the phrase “proceed forward”. It drove me nuts. When writing in a professional setting, I check and double check my grammar compulsively. However, when I write here, I just write. No apostrophes are used (to be fair, it states that on my front page) and I do use “aint” a lot. What bugs me to no end is when people make acompound word two. Week End, Birth Day and on.
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Afterthought: My husband and I went to a local museum today and on one of the displays the caption said “….this bag was used to smuggle items threw the enemy lines”.
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I couldn’t agree more with what you’ve written. Incorrect grammar drives me crazy. You’re/your is my #1 pet peeve. Sadly, I can’t even go out to dinner anymore without finding numerous errors on “menu’s” at restaurants.
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I’m very particular about grammar and usage, but I’d say you are over the top! lol! But that’s ok. 🙂
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I think I love you.
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