Should I Stay or Should I Go? – II

(For any single people reading this, don’t be misled by the title, it is ALSO a guide for singles.)

 

Hendrix explains his concepts of “Isolator” and “Fuser,” (along with MANY other relationship issues,) which the therapeutic community calls, Narcissist and Co-dependent. In a relationship, the “Isolator” seeks distance; the “Fuser” seeks closeness. On the surface, it would seem that “perfect” relationships occur when Fuser gets with Fuser and Isolator with Isolator. NOT TRUE, says Hendrix. We actually search out and find our opposites. And, therein begins the eternal struggle … "I need you to tell me what you’re FEELING," vs. "I need time ALONE, to think!" … or what is called, “The Dance of Optimum Distance.”

 

 

 

 

 

Now comes the difficult part – call a meeting with your husband, present him with your list of “problems,” and ask him this question …

 

 

 

 

 

“Would you like to help me eliminate these issues?”

 

 

 

 

 

Simple huh? … No, it’s not simple, because it may be (I’ll say “Probably”) the first time you’ve sat down, in a non-judgmental, non-attacking, fashion and asked your mate, if he would like to “JOIN,” you in problem solving. It certainly will be the first time you sat down with your newfound knowledge, (and answers) gleaned from Getting The Love You Want: A Guide For Couples. (Hendrix also suggests how to get your mate to PARTICIPATE in healing the relationship.)

 

 

 

Red, I know this may sound like I have a financial interest in this book and I do not. It’s just an incredibly well written book in lay language and will bring salvation to ANY relationship, even those considered “perfect.”

 

 

 

 

 

Because relationships are always in a state of flux, and because we don’t “know” what REALLY makes a relationship, Hendrix’s book will make the questionable relationship stronger and the “perfect” relationship impenetrable. It will also make clear those relationships that should be terminated and why.

 

 

 

 

 

I believe so strongly in this book because I didn’t find it until AFTER my divorce. I know, had I had the knowledge contained within it’s covers, my attitude about my marriage would have been VERY different and thereby, the outcome of the marriage may well have been different. Please don’t let the same thing happen to you.

 

 

 

 

 

Do YOU have $8 to spend on your relationship?

 

 

 

 

 

"In the long run, we get no more than we have been willing to risk giving."

 

 

(Sheldon Kopp.)

 

 

 

 

 

And that’s one man’s opinion

 

 

 

 

 

<p class="MsoNormal” style=”MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt”>Best wishes, 

Nunzio