A Story Of Conquering Pain – 4 of 4

Conversely, when we forgive, we recognize that our abusive parent was indeed crazy and crying out for help.  Yes, in the abuse of us, their children, they were crying out for help.  What parent in their right mind would have sex with their own child?  What parent in their right mind would beat or kill their child?  What of the “softer” abuses?  What parent in their right mind would endanger their child’s security by drinking to excess then climbing into a vehicle to drive drunk?  What else can these actions be but the actions of someone in deep trouble, “crazy,” crying out for help?

 

 

 

 

 

Our abusers made errors.  When we recognize their actions as errors, we are able to recognize our own actions as errors as well, instead of calling ourselves “bad,” “broken,” “flawed,” or “inferior.”

 

 

 

 

 

Those of us who continue to call ourselves names, who continue with the self-imposed punishment of negative self-talk, who believe we really are bad, have not yet been able to forgive our abusers.  One day, we will give ourselves permission … permission to emerge from our self-imposed purgatory.

 

 

 

 

 

I have long since made peace with my mother’s memory and truly forgiven her for her errors; I know I have because I can feel it.  I also knew that she and I could no longer exist in the same space.  To do so would jeopardize my health, so I had to let her go.  I severed contact with her.  It’s been over 30 years now.  I do not know if she is alive or dead. 

 

But you know what?  I’ve never been better, or happier …

 

life works out just like it’s supposed to.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Find that sweet, innocent child in you of years ago; engage with that child; recognize how that child never was “bad.”  There NEVER was anything wrong with that child, with you …or me!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We all are lovable – but it must start with forgiveness.

 

 

 

 

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Find the child in you, embrace him or her, stand together … forgive your abuser, forgive yourself … and never call yourself “bad,” or “broken” again.

 

 

 

 

 

For all of us … and you Red …

 

Find the child in you … and forgive.

 

 

 

 

 

God bless, and best wishes.