WANTED : Unbiased opinions

 

Ok, it’s not so much "wanted" as "needed".  I’ve been reading another diary on OD, and I got a bad feeling that I was like the "bad boyfriend" being described by someone….except I’m a husband, not a boyfriend. 

I need to tell the honest-to-God truth to my readers to get honest-to-God opinions.  I think I’m pretty good at this, most of the time, but sometimes I wonder if I paint too nice a picture of myself.

It’s about My Mikey’s future gender change.  Lately, that’s become a topic of some conversation again.  I was horrified to find out that I still have such big issues with it.  Who’d’ve thought?!  After all,  I’m a gay man married to a gay man trapped in a woman’s body.  Well, maybe not exactly like that, but it’s a literal description, anyway.  My Mikey, as you all probably realize by now, is female in form, wanting to have the surgery to become male in form.

He’s male inside.  That, I don’t have one bit of problem with.  Here’s the tricky part…..

Apparently, I was raised a little more Southern Baptist’ish than I thought I was.  I mean, little things, even, can mean big reactions in my family.  I told my mother when I was little that I wanted to change my NAME, and she said if I did, I would not be her son anymore, because she had purposely chosen my name, and her son had the name he was intended to have.

Now, apply that to our situation here.  If I couldn’t even change my name….how was I supposed to believe anyone could change their BODY?!!!

There seems to be a line, though.  I’m just unsure of where it is.  I mean, to be technical, glasses and contacts are changing one’s body.  Makeup is changing one’s body.  Tattoos are changing one’s body.  Liposuction is changing one’s body. 

If those things are ok, then where is the proverbial line that is not supposed to be crossed?  Why would it be any worse to change one’s gender?  Bad eyesight?  Get glasses/contacts, have lasik, something.  Don’t like the way you look?  Put on makeup.  Have a face lift.  Get plastic surgery.  (I wouldn’t DO the plastic surgery or face life, but I don’t think they’re sinful!)  Want a little artwork on you?  Get a tattoo.  Feel like you’re just too fat and can’t lose the weight?  Get liposuction. 

Feel like you’re in the wrong gendered body?  Get a sex change.

Is that any different?  I know how my family would view it, but this is not my family’s life we’re talking about.  This is the love of my life.  My spouse.  My partner in life.  My "wife".  By the way, I actually LIKE having a  "wife".  It sounds cool to say it!  Drives My Mikey crazy when I refer to him as my wife, but I like it.  teehee

So maybe a sex change is NOT bad.  Why have I got this nagging thing inside me saying that My Mikey should just get used to his body as it is and live with it?!!!!  After all, I’m comprised almost equally of females and males, inwardly.  A  few more men.  But the girls in here don’t want a female body.  That’s the difference, I guess.  My Mikey DOES want a male body.

And, upon thinking about it, I have three women and seven males of varying ages in my body.

So not half and half.  But Betty is QUITE a presence.

I still want opinions.  Please try to be as fair as possible.  That doesn’t mean you have to  be nice…just FAIR.

My Mikey, I love you forever times PI cubed plus one,

Your Jack