Tubal Ligation

I made the decision to have my tubes tied years ago.I signed the papers twice before and both times something happened that I couldn’t have it done. Now I will be having it done this week while having another gynological procedure done. And what happens? My family flips!!!!

I guess I better explain better.

December 1998.

I’m pregnant with my 4th child. My husband (now deceased) and I decide we’re done making babies. So we decide to have my tubes tied when the baby is born. Well when Noni finally gets here it’s by emergency C-section to save her life as well as my own. During the procedure everything goes wrong. During the c-section they accidently cut her shoulder & I start to bleed out. They are unable to tie my tubes.

Fast Forward

January 2004

I’m pregnant with 5th child due 3-1-04; alone. Very difficult pregnancy. I was on bedrest, in & out of the hospital, real sick most of the time, you know the works. My doctors advise me not to have anymore kids.Then I say ok enough is enough I am getting done for sure this time!! I sign the papers 1-12-04. Well when you sign the papers you have to wait 30 days before they can tie your tubes. Well my baby came premature by emergency C-section on 1-21-04!!! Less than 2 weeks after I signed the papers. So they wouldn’t tie them then. 

Fast Forward

April 2005

I am diagnosed with intra-uterine tumors. My doctor’s propose some alternative meds. Doctor’s again advise against concieving any more children. Not a problem; I don’t won’t anymore kids. Then the decision is made to remove the tumors. Not a problem while they are in there they are going to tie my tubes.

Well I told my mother and she started CRYING!!  She couldn’t believe it. She doesn’t understand why I would want to do that to myself. When I told her my reasons she says to me that if I am not doing anything (sexually) what’s the problem. She went on & on about I only have 1 boy I should wait because my fiancee might want another one (he doesn’t). I remind her how expensive kids are. She says I’ll regret it later. Mind you mother lives in San Fransisco & I’m in Detroit. So she can’t help me with them except once a year when she visits. I go into my "when do I get time for me so I can go back to school or work and better myself" speech. It fell on deaf ears. So I ended up hanging up on her.

My mother told my 29 year old virgin sister who is working on her 2nd PHD!!!  Who in turn calls me and tells me I’ll regret it, she can’t see me having more kids and a whole bunch of other stuff. And while I’m typing this right now she is calling me again to try to talk me out of it. I again re-interate my many reasons, I also remind her that she could always get married and have some of her own kids! She also lives in CA with my mother.

I told my my mother and sis that my mind is made up & the only regrets I have is not following my first mind and not telling them jack!!

I talked to one of the ministers at church who is my counselor as well. I have her support as well as my fiancee’s support. That’s good enough for me.

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