Ladies… *found a couple small errors*
It all started out with a text I sent out earlier this morning about something that was just put onto my heart. It then evolved into something I had to write out in here. The text goes:
Yesterday I was reminded to seek Him first then all things will be added unto me (Matthew 6:33). I realized that He wants to be the Man in my life. He wants a relationship with me. Not just me running to Him when I need/want something. He wants to be the one who gives me butterflies and make me weak in the knees so He can show me just how much He loves me. Its filling and freeing to be in a relationship with Him so I encourage you all to make and keep Him first in all you do. Its the best relationship you’ll ever have!
I know its elementary stuff but we all need to be reminded of that from time to time. I know I am guilty of losing focus and putting more emphasis on other things and letting my relationship with Him suffer. I’m most guilty of that when it comes to guys and friends. Making time to talk to them, think about them, and making sure they know how much I love and appreciate them that I exhaust myself making little or no time for God. That got me to thinking. So many women think their joy will come from a guy that they get so wrapped up in a particular guy. That’s how a lot of us get hurt. Yes I am talking to myself here. We let guys determine our worth a lot of times because if a guy rejects us, passes us over, whatever, we start to wonder "What’s wrong with me?" Am I right or wrong?
A lot of us start nitpicking ourselves because lets face it. Our culture’s standard of beauty is so ridiculous no REAL woman could ever fit the bill. We all cant be tall, a size 0, and flawless. If you turn on the tv, that’s all you see portrayed on there. And even those women dont look like that! They have surgery, spray tans, fake hair, nails, teeth, chest, etc etc etc. WHERE is the realness? And it seems a lot of men have fallen into looking for those type of women passing over great real women for an illusion. I know not all men do so, fellas dont chop my head off just yet. lol. There are plenty of REAL men out there that are not fooled by the illusion. However, in my experience, if I find a guy who will have a real looking woman, they expect me to act like a tramp. Yes I know not all guys are like this either. I just find it irritating when a guy thinks you owe him something just because he takes an interest in you. And sadly, we as women usually fall into it. If I don’t do this this or this, I’ll lose him and he’ll find someone else who will. Well let him! This is why it is so important to have a true relationship with Him and put Him first in all things as I said earlier. He will show you how a lady, girlfriend, and wife is supposed to feel and be treated by simply LOVING you. Unconditionally. All He wants is your love in return. Not favors, or to look a certain way, or act a certain way. He loves you just as you are now. And that love will change you from the inside out. It’ll give you confidence and show you exactly how much you are worth. Ladies dont let anyone out there depreciate how much you are worth. I am so tired of seeing gems being passed over for trash. I am so tired of seeing beautiful women on the inside downgrade themselves just to be accepted and used at the whim of whatever guy may come along only to pick up the broken pieces that are eventually left behind. Tired of seeing women broken and discouraged over and over again. KNOW YOUR WORTH!
1 Peter 3:3-4 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
Titus 2:3-5 Teach the older women to be reverent int he way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.
Love Him and let Him love you. Demand respect from everyone in your life and settle for nothing less. If ALL women did this, then ALL men will start to value women again. Not just the handful of good guys that are out there. Now with that being said, don’t expect to be respected if you don’t act respectable. Act like a lady, and expect to be treated like a lady, Act like a tramp, and expect to be treated as such. So take your value, self respect, and confidence back ladies. Things will be so much better if we all do!
That was my soapbox for today. I just had to put a little encouragement out there. And thank you to all the REAL men out there who are 24/7 gentlemen that love and respect women for who they are, not just for what they look like or what they do for you. You all keep being you and teaching all the other guys how things should be. I love you all and God bless. *hugs and smooches to all*
*HUGS* TOTAL!
give newbeginnings more *HUGS*
