It is horrible…
Last night my husband and I were being a typical old married couple.
…and he suddenly hands his phone to me. On it are pictures from his sister of her filled with bite marks from bed bugs and a picture of the room in which she is staying in… open space with like 4 bunk beds and random people sleeping on each.
Immediately I froze. Felt bad for thinking she was lying and staying somewhere with her baby daddy. Felt bad for kicking her out.
My husband gets up from the bed and walks out the room. I call him and he doesn’t answer. So, I go off searching for him. I find him sitting on the couch, in darkness and crying.
he kept whispering.
Immediately I phoned her and asked for her location, but she wouldn’t tell me. Told her we would fetch her and bring her back, but she said that she had already paid R 3500 = $ 198,50 for the month and that was money the kids needed so she cannot waste it by not staying there.
My mind is questioning how she couldn’t so much as give me R 500 for electricity. I know the circumstances are different there, but could she not offer to help me out with living expenses in any way?
After a while my husband and I returned to bed, he watched 
, I tossed and turned in bed and finally went to sleep with 
playing into my earphones.
And now I am stuck and don’t know what to do? 
oh no…oh no…oh gosh that’s terrible, but she has to figure some things out for herself.
@strawberryjelly 😏
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You can’t blame yourself for the situation she is in, but I can see why it would eat at you. If she would have just helped out there things could have been different.
I wish she could have helped out and so I wouldn’t be feeling like such a horrible person. Oh well hopefully she sorts herself out soon.
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I don’t know the full context so I could be completely wrong on this situation, but sometimes people need to be left to their own devices to solve their issues. It’s like an addict, has to hit rock bottom on their own in order to get help. You can’t force recovery on them even though their best interests are in your heart.
It’s hard to sit back and just watch, but sometimes it is necessary.
I totally get that but being the by stander and being the occupational victim sucks! It is all very well wanting them to reap the consequences of their choices but when you have to also experience those consequences you find yourself asking when it is going to stop and when do you reach the breaking point. (okay I am now talking about my husband’s alcohol addiction)
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